Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (Nov. & Dec. 2019)
On my 80th birthday, our family of 19 were in Montenegro. I shared with them four markers based on four scripture texts that governed the goals, growth and values of our family.
1st MARKER:
GOD, FIRST AND CENTRAL.
“choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve...But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:16
We have to choose as to whom or what we give supreme allegiance... This choice is personal: “as for me;” it is also corporate: “my household”.
We serve the LORD, the true and living God. Our understanding, our relationship to Him, determine our priorities and our decision-making. In our family, we acknowledge Him as the Creator God. We gaze in awe at the beauty of the world around us. Made in His image we treasure and express His creative nature. I’m so glad that we are a family of artists, musicians, writers, storytellers and communicators.
I’ve listened to most of you speaking in public. I marvel at your fluency. Once when I was preaching at Wesley Church, Singapore, my cousin said, “You speak like your father” My first reaction was “No!” My preaching is anointed and honed by the Spirit. My dad never preached.” Hours later, as I thought of my father and his boldness and clarity in addressing a wide variety of audiences, I began to thank God for this gift that I inherited from my father. And for you, my sons and grandchildren, your ability to hold audiences spell-bound also come from your Mother/Grandmother. She was voted the best student actress in Hong Kong.
The God we choose to worship is also the Redeemer-Lord. We can never thank Him sufficiently for His grace in saving and transforming us. Mummy and I in bringing up our three sons, avoided religiosity; we stressed the authentic. I believe that you; three sons did not rebel or backslide because we tried as your parents, to be honest, and real. In the early years of our marriage, we often quarrelled. And you; our sons must have been terrified to hear your Mother’s loud screams and my apologetic “shhh….the children are sleeping” The morning after our big row, we confessed that Mummy and Daddy crossed swords with bitter words. We were both wrong. By God’s grace, we made up. He’s forgiven us. His redemptive love covered our sinful words and actions. He set us free to follow and serve Him.
Our choice was also worked out in our agreement to serve Him together. When we had guests in our West Hill home, we did not send you to bed when they were in the living room. You played a major role in welcoming and serving our guests. And also in the clearing and washing up. I cannot help noticing that all three of you have in turn provided hospitality in your homes.
2nd MARKER:
BEYOND ALL EXPECTATIONS!
No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him. 1 Corinthians 2:9
Looking back at over five decades of our family history and journey, these words ring true.
God has blessed us with abundance, with the best. He’s given me the best gift in the person of my dear wife whom you treasure as Mother and Grandmother. He has provided us with unparalleled opportunities to study at the best universities. He’s brought wise and godly men and women in our lives who have encouraged and emboldened us to be leaders in our spheres of influence.
More importantly, the Lord has used us to bring numerous people to know, love and serve Him. We sowed and watered the gospel seed; He gives the increase. Currently, we are heavily involved in equipping key people for leadership in the marketplace, academia and the local church. None of us can ever dream of these achievements.
We are aware of the Lord’s words “To whom much is given, much is expected” (Lk.12:48)
As I celebrate my 80th, my heart and mind are gripped by the importance of leaving a good legacy. Of course, you will one day inherit some of our assets. I’ve been telling my close friends and associates, “An inheritance is not what you leave for people but what you leave in them.”
The legacy that I long to leave in you is the joy of following the Lord and working with others to bring many in the kingdom, to be master builders in planting churches. On a personal and family level, to create unforgettable moments for others. As a family, we have valued the delight of vacationing together. We will always remember the cruises in Halong Bay, Vietnam, Alaska and now the Adriatic. And you have also given Mummy and me; memorable holidays in three different continents.
3rd MARKER:
DREAMING BIG!
Their descendants will be known among the nations. All who see them will acknowledge that they are a people the Lord has blessed. Isaiah 61:9
I think it was in the late 80s when this verse leapt up at me. And I prayed regularly for its fulfilment. In a unique way, God has made our family international.
My 24 years stint in IFES (International Fellowship of Evangelical Students) instilled a global perspective.
Today all of you regard yourselves as Kingdom and global citizens.
That bold dream is wonderfully fulfilled in my sons. And one day to all our grandchildren and spiritual children.
We’ll be known as “people the Lord has blessed.”
4th MARKER:
RECEIVING AND RELEASING HIS FULNESS AND FAVOUR:
From the fullness of his grace, we have received one blessing after another. John1:16
May the favour of the Lord rest upon us; establish the work of our hands – yes, establish the work of our hands. Psalm 90:17
The Lord has done great things for us.
(Psalm 126:3) I never cease to marvel that God can use people like us, like me – full of flaws and cracks.
I joke often that God works through cracked pots.
That is definitely true! Or in Philip Yancey’s words, “Imperfection is the pre-requisite for grace.”
From the start of finish, we are dependent on His grace and favour.
As we abide in Him, He will make us fruitful. I am convinced that He will continue His work and purpose in and through us. To Him be the glory!
God is looking for those with whom He can do the impossible - what a pity that we plan only the thing we can do by ourselves. A.W. Tozer
There is nothing impossible with God. All the impossibility is with us when we measure God by the limitations of our unbelief. Smith Wigglesworth
Man finds it hard to get what he wants because he does not want the best. God finds it hard to give because he would give the best, and man will not take it. George MacDonald
QUOTES from Malcolm Gladwell
What we think of as free will is largely an illusion: much of the time we are simply operating on autopilot, and the way we think and act – and how well we think and act on the spur of the moment – are a lot more susceptible to outside influences than we realize. Blink
The value of the world we inhabit and the people we surround ourselves will have a profound effect on who we are. Outliers
No one – not even rock stars, not professional athletes, not software billionaires, and not even geniuses – ever makes it alone.
Achievement is talent plus preparation. Blink
“People don’t rise from nothing. We do owe something to parentage and patronage. The people who stand before kings may look like they did it all by themselves. But in fact, they are invariably the beneficiaries of hidden advantages and extraordinary opportunities and cultural legacies that allow them to learn and work hard and make sense of the world in ways others cannot.” Outliers
From Chip and Dan Heath – the value of marriage diaries
When we want something to be true, we gather the information that supports our desire. But the confirmation bias doesn’t just affect what information people go looking for; it even affects what they noticed in the first place. Think of a couple in a troubled marriage. If one partner has labelled the other’s shortcoming – for instance, being “selfish” – then that label can become self-reinforcing. The selfish acts become easier to spot, while the generous acts go unnoticed.
In a situation like this, the therapist Aaron T. Beck, advises that couples consciously fight the tendency too only notice what is wrong. To avoid that trap, he advises couples to keep “marriage diaries” chronicling the things their mates do that please them.
In his book Love is Never Enough, Beck describes a couple. Karen and Ted who kept such a diary. One week Karen noted several things that she appreciated about Ted: He sympathized with me about some bad behaviour by one of my clients. He pitched in to help clean up the house. He kept me company while I was doing the laundry. He suggested we go for a walk which I enjoyed.
Beck said, “Although Ted had done similar things for Karen in the past, they had been erased from her memory because of her negative view of Ted.”
70% of couples who keep this kind of marriage diary reported an improvement in their relationship. “All that had changed was their awareness of what was going on,” Beck wrote. “Before keeping track, they had underestimated the pleasure of their marriage.” Decisive
From John Piper On The True Nature Of Sin
"What is SIN?
It is the glory of God not honoured.
The holiness of God not reverenced.
The greatness of God not admired.
The power of God not praised.
The truth of God not sought.
The wisdom of God not esteemed.
The beauty of God not treasured.
The goodness of God not savoured.
The faithfulness of God not trusted.
The commandments of God not obeyed; The justice of God not respected. The wrath of God not feared; The grace of God not cherished. The presence of God not prized; The person of God not loved.
That is SIN." ~ John Piper
Here is a statistic worth remembering. In a presentation, 5% of people remember a statistic but 63% of people remember a story.
I finally realized that people are prisoners of their phones – that’s why it is called a cell phone.
The naked truth is always better than a well-dressed lie. Ann Landers
People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim. Ann Landers
See a flame in a spark, a tree in a seed. See great things in little beginnings. Richard Sibbes
A Prayer – Shafts of light
In my brokenness, amidst the gloom with dark clouds hanging over me,
I will rise up and praise you.
Through the cracks in my life, I see shafts of light
Coming closer, shining brighter.
With eyes of faith, I see your smile, sense your love and acceptance.
The clouds begin to scatter.
The sun of righteousness is rising with healing in his wings.
Under your cover, I will worship; I will behold your beauty.
As I gaze on you, you are transforming me
Into the likeness of your dear son.
I am grateful, eternally grateful.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (October. 2019)
“It is my hope and prayer that many pre-believers will come to the annual evangelistic meeting we’ve planned for tonight”
Only a couple of non-Christians showed up; the rest were their regular church members. No clear vision was communicated about the purpose of the special gathering. Members were simply asked to pray and invite their friends to attend. But they were not motivated to befriend pre-believers weeks before the meeting and through regular prayer and contact accompany them to the event. And at the meeting, to pray them into God’s kingdom.
“I expect our congregation to double in three years’ time”
A noble wish. Wonderful spiritual goal. But three years later, the numbers remained the same. The church was operating in maintenance mode. What the pastor expected was not shared and owned by the congregation. Members comfortably enjoy the spiritual oasis the main service and the small groups provided. If he and a few key leaders were to use and adapt Alpha courses and demonstrate loving relationships, there might be growth. Some will come to Christ and connect with them.
“I believe my Youth Pastor is doing a great job. His weekly reports are spectacular. I’m so proud he’s on our team”
To his dismay and heart-break when this member of his staff team left, the Pastor found his Youth group in disarray. Numbers had plummeted. The Pastor was unaware of the adage “You get what you inspect, not what you expect.” Some folks know how to fob you off with hyped up reporting.
“My vision is to raise 500 Prayer Warriors for our church.”
What a commendable ambition. When the Pastor said this, he had 300 people in his church. Six years later after he first shared his vision, only around 25 members could be regarded as faithful intercessors. When a deacon in his congregation gingerly asked him why his original dream had not been fulfilled, the Pastor cheekily retorted, “I didn’t set a deadline.” Precisely. He was simply pulling an impressive figure out of the proverbial that. There was no strategy to realize his dream. In fact, he rarely mentioned this after two or three initial attempts. His goal was not owned by his members. He forgets that teamwork makes a dream work but a vision turns into a nightmare when the leader had a big dream and an uncommitted team.
Had these case studies (they happen so frequently!) come before a review board in a well-run business, the pastors would have been fired. The problem is they can conveniently hide behind spiritual smokescreens. “Our work is spiritual work. You can’t measure it by quantitative growth. God sees the heart and he values faithfulness more than success.’ Ingenious excuses can easily be multiplied.
“Expect Great Things From God And Attempt Great Things For God.”
Leaders are expected to cast vision and to articulate clear goals. Pastors are aware that the faith factor will prompt them to set big ones.
Are we not permitted set large goals and cherish great expectations? No. Of course, we’ll need the empowering of God’ Spirit to enable us to do it. But leaders have to present their targets with deadlines. Then they must first run through these with their team of co-workers. Together, they should come up with simple and practical steps to implement them. Regular review and feedback will embolden members to make their leaders’ dream, a reality. Otherwise, their vision stems merely from personal impulses, rather than from the Lord.
Like the great missionary William Carey, we should “expect great things from God and attempt great things for God.”
QUOTES from Pastor John Ortberg
Failure does not shape you; the way you respond to failure shape you.
The decision to grow always involves a choice between risk and comfort. This means to be a follower of Jesus you must renounce comfort as the ultimate value of your life.
Pride moves us to bow down before a mirror rather than before God.
One of the great illusions of our age is that hurrying will buy us more time.
We have largely traded wisdom for information, depth for breadth. We want microwave maturity.
God is not interested in your “spiritual life”. God is just interested in your life.
Gratitude is what we radiate when we experience grace. The soul is made to run on grace the way a Jumbo 747 runs on rocket fuel.
99% of failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses (George Washington) You are never a failure until you begin to blame somebody else.
If you think you are leading but no one is following, they; you’re only taking a walk.
A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them and strong enough to correct them.
The revolutionary thinking that God loves me as I am and not as I should require radical re-thinking and profound emotional re-adjustments. Small wonder that the late spiritual giant Basil Hume claimed that Christians find it easier to believe that God exists than God loves them.
Paths without obstacles don’t lead anywhere. To get to the promised land, you have to navigate your way through the wilderness.
Our love grows in intimacy and depth of understanding. What, and who we love shapes us we also shape all and what we love.
Man finds it hard to get what he wants because he does not want the best. God finds it hard to give because he would give the best, and man will not take it.
You will be with you longer than anyone else on the planet, so why not make it a good relationship?
Change can be scary but you know what’s scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, developing and progressing.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (September. 2019)
“History is a continuing conversation between the past and the present about the future” (E.H. Carr modified by Bishop Lesslie Newbiggin)
Some of us regard history as boring and irrelevant. We had to memorise numerous names of kings and queens and dictators and the dates of their reigns. We had to recall significant battles and coups which altered the course of history. But history has timeless messages for every generation.
Ignoring History
Consider Adolf Hitler’s Nazi invasion of Russia in 1941. He was confident of gaining a massive victory with his superior troops and armaments. But they were defeated by the dreaded Russian winter and inadequate supply lines. This military campaign cost Hitler close to the deaths of one million men and eventually led to his defeat in World War II.
If only Hitler had noted a grave disaster that happened two centuries before him. Napoleon Bonaparte in his quest to conquer the world attacked Russia. His troops did not lose a single battle against the Russians. They were instead starved and frozen to death. This led to Napoleon’s surrender and ultimately to the demise of the French empire.
George Santayana’s often quoted words ring true.
“Those who do not read history are doomed to repeat it. Those who fail to learn from the mistakes of their predecessors are destined to repeat them”
Glorying in Past History
Historian Ian Morris observed that before the beginning of 18th century, China was “the richest, strongest and most inventive place on earth.” The Ming dynasty brought untold wealth. Chinese inventions then were second to none. But China was outstripped by the scientific discoveries of the West in that century. Instead of learning and improving on their inventions, China looked down on the new upstarts. The false sense of superiority and past achievements resulted in what Lesslie Thomas in his paperback Curious dubbed as “curiousity deficit.” China languished and spent the next three centuries catching up.
Sadly, both these traits have repeatedly featured in church history – both ancient and contemporary.
I have been living in UK for over 50 years. Wherever I travel, I cannot escape the visible presence of church buildings. Each year, thousands visit magnificent cathedrals with impressive Gothic designs. I smile when I see the sign at St Paul’s Cathedral describing itself as a monument. Church history reminds us that God’s church throughout the centuries began as a movement. Buildings were constructed to the glory of God and worshippers were flocking into them. Once the congregations were established, they became institutions with their own rituals, forms and governance. Past movements of the Spirit were classified as treasured memories. Struggles for power would occur. Rigid rules prevented needed changes. Today these church buildings are sanctuaries for a few or preserved as historic monuments.
History: review and action
Every church has a history that begins with a glorious past. Over the years decline sets in. Instead of tackling the root causes, leaders apportion blame on changing circumstances or weak pastors. Every decline is preceded by a period when things plateau. Interestingly, a spirit of smugness and satisfaction develops. “We are still able to maintain our services and activities. We are bigger than the neighbouring congregation.” They ignore the dangerous signs of being static. The more “spiritual” ones argue that faithfulness is more important than success (a false dichotomy!) The downward slide continues.
Wise leaders will pause and take serious stock of their local congregation. They look back at periods of history when their church enjoyed the distinct favour and blessings of God, when people flock to worship and the community of faith was characterized by overflowing love. They then identify factors and people that made their church great in the sight of the Lord. Facing up o their decline or static state, they need to look at the at the prevailing social and spiritual climate. What are major tends? Looking at their recent history, they examine decisions and people that hamper growth. Together with other concerned members, they will then seek the Lord. Their heart cry is for the Lord to renew and revive His people. And for Him to give them a hunger for Him resulting in fresh encounters with Him. This will lead to a passion for the lost and to equip members for everyday discipleship.
On a more personal level, I seek to set aside spend time reflecting on the experiences of God’s grace and mighty works in my life. I face up to my shortcoming and failures especially in working together with others. Thanksgiving and repentance follow. When opportunities arise, I seek to share them with fellow leaders so, we can enrich the lives of those who have the privilege of ministering.
History never says goodbye. History says, “See you later.”
A people without the knowledge of their past history, origin and culture is like a tree without roots.
If history repeats itself and the unexpected always happens, how incapable man be; of learning from experience.
Those who do not remember their past are condemned to repeat their mistakes. Those who do not read history are doomed to repeat it. Those who fail to learn from the mistakes of their predecessors are destined to repeat them. Those who do not know history’s mistakes are doomed to repeat them. George Santayana
What experience and history teach is this – that people and governments never have learnt anything from history, or acted on principles deduced from it.
Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present towards the future.
We have all studied history at school and may have found it (as I did) abominably dull. Perhaps we had to memorise lists of the kings and queens who rule our country. But what is the point of history? Was Henry Ford right when during his libel suit said, ‘History is bunk.’ Is history just the random succession of events appearing rather as the meaningless development of the human story? Christians affirm that history is his story, God’s story. For God is at work, moving from a plan preconceived in eternity, and then on beyond to another eternity of the future. John Stott
Forgive the past. It is over. Learn from it and let go. People are constantly changing and growing. Do not cling to a limited, disconnected, negative image of a person in the past. See that person now. Your relationship is always alive and changing.
When we pray we make ourselves available to God.
Prayer is our declaration of dependence on God. John Maxwell
Prayer is keeping company with God Clement of Alexandria
Prayer is the conduit through which power from heaven is brought to earth. O. Hallesby
Prayer is the supreme way to be workers together with God.
God always works with workers and moves with movers. But He does not sit with sitters. Reinhard Bonke
Let the fire go out of the boiler room of the church and the place will look smart and clean but it will be cold. The prayer room is the boiler room for its spiritual life. Leonard Ravenhill
We pray not because we want to feel good or it helps us but because God loves us and wants our attention. We need to set aside time and space to give God our undivided attention.
Shopping malls or cathedrals of consumerism sell people the; me I want to be. Nightclubs provide escapes, psychiatrists offer forgiveness, coffee shops give people community.
Often we lose hope and think this is the end. God smiles from above and says, “Sweetheart, it’s just a bend, not the end.”
Made for spirituality, we wallow in introspection. Made for joy, we settle for pleasure. Made for justice, we clamour for vengeance. Made for relationship, we insist on our own way. Made for beauty, we are satisfied with sentiment. But new creation has already begun. The sun has begun to rise. Christians are called to leave behind, in the tomb of Jesus Christ, all that belongs to the brokenness and incompleteness of the present world ... That, quite simply, is what it means to be Christian: to follow Jesus Christ into the new world, God's new world, which he has thrown open before us.[1]https://www.azquotes.com/quote/479856
A person will sometime devote his life to the development of one part of his body – his wish-bone.
Death is not extinguishing the light; it is putting the lamp out because the dawn has come.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (August. 2019)
Dear Fellow Communicators,
I have great pleasure in sending you Notes and Quotes for this month. Once again, the opening article is personal. It is a summary of what I shared with our family members on 18 July when we were cruising together around the Adriatic Sea. From time to time, I have been asked to share the "secrets" of generational blessing. I am aware that each family is unique and distinctive. As I reflect on God's grace and favour on our family, I listed the scriptural texts and values that have shaped and are forming my family.
It will, of course, be wonderful to hear what your guiding biblical texts are.
MY EIGHTIETH BIRTHDAY CRUISE around the Adriatic will forever be remembered by our family. I’m delighted that I could create “peak moments” for them. Highlights included great dining, chatting, hanging out and touring different ports together. We had so much fun and laughter; we marvelled at the wonder of our family bonding. Can we ever forget the special hour when we prophesied and blessed one another?
I shared the biblical texts that guided and shaped our family. You are welcome to eavesdrop!
John 1: 16 From the fullness of his grace, we have received one blessing after another. We are recipients and benefactors of His grace. Because of this, we can bless others with love and joy.
Joshua 24:15 Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve….but as for me and my household we will serve the Lord. At the outset of our marriage, King Ling and I resolved to enthrone the Lord in our personal and corporate lives. He is to be central in our relationships, our vision, values and decision making. This choice was often challenged but He empowered us to fulfil our commitment. When you, our sons were young, we involved you in entertaining numerous international guests. We were eager for you to fulfill our God-give responsibility in serving Him and His people.
1 Corinthians 2: 9,10 No eye has seen, no year has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him but God has revealed it to us by his Spirit.
God has prepared the best for us. He gave me the best life partner. He gave you sons, the best mother. He gave you the best education guiding you to Oxbridge followed by the great jobs. He gave us the best mentors and networks to help us thrive and prosper. Later He gave you your best life companions and together He blessed you with gifted children. He also blessed us with what I term “the winning combination” - the Word and Spirit. Our faith is rooted in His Word and our life and ministry, empowered by His Spirit.
1 Corinthians 3:10 By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a master builder… This has been my life-long calling. God enabled me in partnership with others to build up the IFES (1967-1991) When I took over the helm as General Secretary in 1972. There were around 35 national evangelical student movements. When I stepped down, the global Fellowship had nearly 100 member movements. Today there are 170. Part of this building ministry includes raising up key godly men and women to assume leadership responsibilities in politics, market place, academia and the church. From 1991 to 2008, together with a team, I founded the Emmanuel Evangelical Church and became its senior pastor. This international church located in Westminster produced numerous disciple-makers and planted two other congregations. My fervent prayer is that each of you will inherit the gene of building up people and corporate bodies that will mighty forces in the Kingdom.
Isaiah 61:8,9 In my faithfulness I will reward them and make an everlasting covenant with them. Their descendants will be known among the nations and their offspring among the peoples. All who see them will acknowledge that they are a people the Lord has blessed.
These words came alive around 2007 when I observed the impact that our three sons were making globally. Daniel has made a significant mark in academia and in musicology. Andrew’s life coaching through Authentic Life and Authentic Business has brought a fresh breath of life and influenced decision-makers around the world. Steve’s preaching and mentoring have led many in East Asia and the USA to a dynamic relationship with the Lord. I’m constantly overwhelmed by the giftings and achievements of their children (our grandchildren) as they gain honours in their studies and in sports. I marvel at their communication skills e.g. compiling blogs, writing raps and leading Alpha courses. We’re so thankful that they love and serve the Lord. Indeed, “we are a people that God has blessed.” For a generational blessing to continue, I pray every night for each family member by name. Finally, my prayer is encapsulated in the words of
Psalm 90: 16,17 May your deeds be shown to your servants, your splendour to their children. May the favour (beauty) of the Lord our God rest upon us; establish the work of our hands for us – yes, establish the work of our hands. Amen!
©Our lives are measured in moments and defining moments are the ones that endure in our memories.
©In life, we work so hard to get the kinks out that we forget to put the peaks in.
©Moments of elevation are experiences that rise above every day. Times to be savoured. Moments that make us feel, engaged, joyful, amazed, motivated. They are peaks.
©The occasionally remarkable moments shouldn’t be left to choice! They should be planned for and invested in.
©When creating a memorable customer experience, you first need to fill the pits. That, in turn, frees you up to focus on the second stage: creating the moments that will make the experience “occasionally remarkable.”
©Fill pits, then build peaks.
©Many business leaders never pivot to that second stage. Instead, having filled the pits in their service, they scramble to pave the potholes—the minor problems and annoyances. It’s as though the leaders aspire to create a complaint-free service rather than an extraordinary one.
This book is full of stories and case histories. The one I like best tells of the experience of Doug Dietz, an engineer who designed the MRI machine in 2007. He was elated with its initial success until he saw children frozen with fear, crying and in some cases sedated when they had their scans. Their parents were distraught. Dietz re-designed the machine. They were re-fashioned and re-shaped as canoes, submarines and spaceships. The children were invited to go on an adventure. The hospital rooms were also transformed with bright colours and some even had a small pond with koi fish swimming in it. Dietz broke down in tears when he saw and heard a young girl who had gone through 30 minutes in the spaceship asking her mother, “Can I come back tomorrow?” For her, a moment of agony was turned into one of elation. The pit was transformed into a peak. pp29-33
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© The ultimate test of our spirituality is the measure of our amazement at the grace of God. Martyn Lloyd-Jones
© Imperfection is a prerequisite for grace. The light shines through cracks. Philip Yancey
© Grace and gratitude belong together like heaven and earth. Gratitude evokes grace like voice and echo. Gratitude follows grace as thunder follows lightning. Karl Barth
© Gratitude is what we radiate when we experience grace. And the soul is made to run on grace the way a 747 runs on rocket fuel. John Ortberg
¬ An actress got a part playing the role of a small mother. She was paid the minimum wage.
¬ Dogs cannot operate MRI machines. Cats can.
¬ What do you call a Mexican whose vehicle has been stolen. Carlos.
¬ What do you call a man who cannot stand? Neil.
¬ What do you call a deer with no eyes? No idea.
¬ How do you light up a football stadium? With a football match.
¬ Why was Six Afraid of Seven? Because Seven Eight Nine.
¬ And the Lord said, “Come forth and you will have abundant life.” Sam came fifth and won a toaster.
¬ Why did the yoghurt go to the art exhibition? Because it was cultured.
¬ A man tells his doctor, “Doc, please help me. I’m addicted to Twitter.” The doctor replies, “Sorry, I don’t follow you.”
¬ Why was the cat sitting on the computer? He was keeping an eye on the mouse.
¬ What did the bald man say when he received a comb as a birthday present? “Thanks, I’ll never part with it.”
¬ What did the Tin Man say when he got run over by a steam roller? “Curses! Foil again.”
¬ Invisible Man married Invisible Woman. Their children were nothing to look at.”
¬ Two TV aerials got married. The ceremony was boring but the reception was great.
¬ There was a bear at the murder scene. It was a grizzly sight.
...There were also chickens, ducks and turkeys there. Foul play was suspected.
...The Investigator smelled of garlic, onion and pepper. He was a seasoned detective.
¬ People who write puns need pun-ishing!
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (July. 2019)
On 16 July, I celebrate my 80th birthday. A couple of weeks ago, in our daily Bible reading, words from Psalm 71:17,18 leapt up at us. Spontaneously King Ling and I concurred that I should adopt them as my birthday text.
Psalm 71: 17,18 “Since my youth, O God, you have taught me, and to this day I declare your marvellous deeds. Even when I am old and grey, do not forsake me O God till I declare your power to the next generation, your might to all who are to come.”
I’m eternally grateful for all that the Lord has taught me in His Word and through numerous friends and books. Listed below are words of wisdom I’ve received and released that have proved formative and life-changing...
1. First Things First. Loving and serving the Triune God. Relating to Him as my Father, making His Son pre-eminent and welcoming the Spirit to fill me. Deu.6:4,5; 1 Jn.3:1-3; Col.1;18; Eph.5:18
2. Serving Him together in our family. Jos. 24;15. All our sons, their wives and 10 grandchildren actively love and serve Him. In spite of our busy ministries, we’ve made quality family time a priority. We never skimped on holidays. And when we entertained guests in our home, all three sons joined in.
3. Godly character precedes ministry. Believers look up and follow leaders with Christlike characters rather than those with talents and charisma.
4. Proactively pursue the Important over the Urgent. In planning, decision making and building up God’s people. If possible, delegate urgent to others.
5. People matter to God, therefore to me. View everyone as “made in the image of God” and avoid labelling and judging them. I recognize that in spite of our fallenness, God has given everyone creative potential and the ability to respond to Him.
6. Maintain a daily habit of reading the scriptures aloud. Surprisingly, this helps us to hear God’s voice. Since 1992, King Ling and I read through the entire Bible yearly. This enables us to avoid selective read-and- pick theology and riding on our theological pet horses.
7. Cultivate a spirit of gratitude and thanksgiving. Whispering “thank you” to the Lord for His blessings – material as well as spiritual. “Gratitude shows reverence, allowing us to encounter epiphanies, those transcendental moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world.” (John Milton)
8. Daily encourage and bless at least one person. I do this through face to face meetings, emails and kind acts. I once saw a plaque with the words “Aspire to inspire before you expire.”
9. “Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier” (Mother Theresa) Amen and amen!
10. In reviewing fellow workers and work, I get what I inspect, not what I expect. This is in line with Christ’s exhortation to test their fruits. We do not nick-pick and meddle but we need to exercise the role of the walk-about leader. An inspection provides opportunities for praise as well as nipping serious crises in the bud.
11. Distinguish between “Either-Or” and “Both And” God’s Word compels us to choose between worshipping and following Him the true and living God and idols (God substitutes) Either Or applies to issues like blessing or curses, life or death, building on sand or rock etc. Both And relates to winning combination! “Word and Spirit” “Fruit” = godly character and new believers. God is both Lord of creation and redemption. Theologically, grace embraces both common and special revelation. What he has joined together, let no one separate.
12. Lead followers, we’ll have an addition. Lead leaders, we’ll have multiplication. A handwritten note I keep on my desk. I often pray that God will use me to focus on raising up disciple-makers and trainers of trainers!
13. Be humble to admit my sin and failure especially against others. I struggle with this as I tend to be defensive, making excuses for my shortcomings and sometimes blaming others when things go wrong. I learn the importance of two phrases “I’m sorry” “Please forgive me”.
14. In expounding scriptures or in mentoring, aim for transformation rather than information. God has not called us to teach in an academy. Working with His Spirit, our goal is radical change when people meet the living God and motivated to become more like His Son. (2 Cor.3:18)
15. Two vital truths. God who began a good work in me will complete it in the day of Jesus Christ (Phil.1:6) Till then, I have to ask everyone to be patient with me as He has not finished with me yet. I’m still learning, and, hopefully growing.
Quotable Quotes
Our religion never begins with what we do for God. It always starts with what God has done for us, the greatest and wondrous things that God dreamed of and achieved for us in Christ….. The revolutionary thinking that God loves me as I am and not as I should be required radical rethinking and profound emotional re-adjustments. Small wonder that the late Cardinal Basil Hume claimed that Christians find it easier to believe that God exists than God loves them.
Legalism says God will love us if we change. The gospel says, God will change us because He loves us.
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Our love grows in intimacy and depth of understanding. What, and who we love shapes us. We also shape what and who we love.
The great acts of love come from those who habitually perform small acts of kindness.
Language has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone.
If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.
God not only orders our steps, He orders our stops.
The beginning of anxiety is the end of faith, and the beginning of faith is the end of anxiety.
I used to want to fix people but now I want to be with them.
Most people need love and acceptance, a lot more than they need advice.
It seems to me that broken things like broken people, get used more; it’s probably God has more pieces to work with.
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If you have the opportunity to do something amazing in your life, bring someone with you.
Humorous Quotes:
“The management of this Hotel asked me to point out that the sign in the Gents WET FLOOR is a warning, not an instruction.”
I had a cheque returned from my Bank marked “INSUFFICIENT FUNDS” I rang to ask if it meant me or them.
There are two things more difficult than making an after-dinner speech: climbing a wall which is leaning towards you and kissing a girl who is leaning away from you.
MEN marry women with the hope they will never change. WOMEN marry with the hope that their men will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.
What three letters change a girl into a woman? Age.
Humour is your unconscious therapy. Like a welcome summer rain, humour may suddenly cleanse and cool the earth, the air and you.
QUOTES on Wrinkles, Wisdom and Wit
The best anti-ageing cream is ice-cream. What other food makes you feel young like you are eight years old again.
Grandchildren do not make a man feel old. It’s knowing he’s married to a Grandmother.
You’re getting old when your energy runs out on holiday before your money does.
My friend Doug has changed his catchphrase “I’ll be back” to “O my back!”
At age 20, we worry about what others think of us; at 40 we don’t care what others think of us; at 60, we discover they haven’t been thinking of us at all.
Now that I’m over 60, my doctor says I should go out for more fresh air and exercise. I said, “That’s all right. I’ll drive with my car window open.”
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (June. 2019)
A TALE OF TWO MANAGERS
I AM AN ARDENT FOOTBALL FAN. The past weeks have been fabulous for English football! Why fabulous? Because in footballing history, no single nation has ever been represented by four of its own clubs in the two prestigious European finals – the UEFA Champions League (Liverpool vs. Tottenham Hotspur) and the Europa Cup (Chelsea vs. Arsenal)
As I write, over 750,000 Liverpool Football fans packed the city centre to welcome and applaud their triumphant heroes. This celebration was particularly poignant as Liverpool were pipped to winning the English Premier League by Manchester City by a single point!
It’s a well-known observation that avid fans identify themselves with particular star players. Their emotions rise or fall based on the performances of their heroes and teams. I confess that my vicarious pleasure lies in identifying with managers. At half time I’ve often asked myself, “If I were in his shoes, what do I say to my players in the dressing room? Do I bring in a substitute or two to change my game plan? How do I motivate my Team to secure victory?”
You won’t have long to guess as to which manager that I admire. In fact, there are two. First, there is Jurgen Klopp the German manager of Liverpool. Since 2011, I’ve watched him interact with his players. Words like “affirmations” “lucid directions” “lifting spirits” characterised his relationship with them. And when I discovered that Klopp is a committed Christian, I found myself drawing closer to this man. Before the final on 1 June in Madrid, he had suffered defeats in six consecutive finals! Triumphing over adversity reflects his strong character. Like all successful leaders, he forges a winning team mentality. One player made this removing remark, “Playing under Klopp made me and my fellow players bloom.”
The other manager I esteem highly is Pep Guadiola, the manager of Manchester City Football Club. Before assuming the managerial reins in 2016, he had already won national league titles with renown teams like Barcelona FC in Spain and Bayern Munich in Germany. He is legendary! He is known for his thorough preparation. Before each game, he would size up the strengths and weaknesses of opposing teams. Then he maps shares his game plan with his players. In all his post-match comments, he’s never arrogant, belittling other teams and passing negative comments on his players. When his team wins, he lavishes praise on his players. In defeat, he never makes excuses or blames the referee. In victory, he does not rest on his laurels; he gives the impression that he’s still learning and continually working at breakthroughs.
Recently, I heard a commentator, once a star player himself, remarking, “Pep’s achievement cannot be measured in trophies won. Every player he coaches becomes a better player. And consistently so. This is his unique contribution.” He aims at developing the abilities and potential of each player.
Now it’s easy for us to imagine Pep Guardiola as a high-octane manager who shines in one-to-one coaching of his players. But this is not the case. The day after they won the Premier League, there was a victory celebration in their home stadium. Thousands of adulating supporters were there. Pep did not just parade the winning team plus a few substitutes. He had every player, even in the youth team coming on the field to receive the acclaim and applause of their fans. More significant, Pep “fielded” 25 of his backroom staff. These were the ones that he had delegated to do the tactical and technical training. With pride, he raised his hands to cheer and acknowledge all of them. Throughout the celebrations, he did not draw attention to himself. He ascribed their victory to the entire team plus the loyal supporters.
In some ways, we who are lead pastors or chief executives of Christian agencies are like soccer managers. In the game of football, some are appointed player managers. These are usually key players who are trying their hand at management. These men serve as stop gaps, but they do not produce winning teams. Player managers like all players are eager to show off his playing abilities. They may be coaching players, but they concentrate more on their field performance. I suspect most lead pastors are like that. We fulfil our responsibilities when we bring the best out of our staff and lay leaders by moulding them into a team with a winning mentality. We may not have the budgets and the resources of Pep Guardiola. But we still can recruit key people to assist us in the key task of developing leaders.
The apostle Paul, like the Lord Jesus, invested heavily on workers and leaders who laboured alongside him. Read his letters to Timothy and Titus; study his exhortations to the Ephesian elders (Acts 20: 17-38 ESV) And writing to Christians he had never seen, he summarized his leadership responsibility in constantly proclaiming Christ and alongside his ambition is “ to present every man mature in Christ” (Col.1:28,29 ESV)
I look back over four decades of leadership I think of the scores of men and women who looked to me as their Senior leader or Pastor. By God’s grace, quite a few have definitely excelled and even outstripped me in terms of spirituality and accomplishments. Some treasure the impact I’ve made in their lives and ministry. My leadership input was always that of working alongside them, never wielding authority from the top down. My tools were influence, encouragement and formation.
Now, I have to admit that this is not the case with every staff member or lay leader. Sadly, a few no longer walk with the Lord. Others had stagnated or are on the sidelines of usefulness in His kingdom. How easy it is for me to defend my record by stating that the Lord Jesus and the apostle Paul had deserters and failures. One glaring failure on my part was to be the authoritative pastor who led the congregation up front. I enjoyed being on centre stage and basking in the glow of a receptive congregation. I found myself invited to speak at conventions and churches. These require time and preparation. The priority of investing quality time in encouraging and equipping leaders became secondary.
It is my prayer that you and I like Jurgen Klopp and Pep Guardiola, pursue the same passion and vision to bring the best out of the people the Lord has entrusted us. In the end, our leadership will be tested on godly characters and fruitfulness of those who serve alongside us.
There are only two ways to influence human behaviour: you can manipulate it or you can inspire it.
Very few people or companies can clearly articulate WHY they do WHAT they do. By WHY I mean your purpose, cause or belief - WHY does your company exist? WHY do you get out of bed every morning? And WHY should anyone care? People don’t buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it.
We are drawn to leaders and organizations that are good at communicating what they believe. Their ability to make us feel like we belong, to make us feel special, safe and not alone is part of what gives them the ability to inspire us.
Communication is defined not by what is being said but by what is being heard. For this reason, it is vital that you gain a good appreciation of how other people will listen—interpret, process, and assign meaning— to what you have to say before you can influence them effectively.
Inspiration sets the ripple effect in motion. At the heart of leadership is inspiring others to dream more, learn more and become more.
The most valuable gift you can give anyone is to reveal to them their own.
When you help others to learn more, grow more, to dream more and to become more, you fulfil the greatest call of leadership to cultivate the leader in others.
Leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and making sure that impact lasts in your absence.
Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others."
TRADITION
Tradition is the living faith of those now dead. Traditionalism is the dead faith of the living.
WHO WANTS TO BE A SERVANT?
Everyone likes to talk about being a servant until they are treated like one. If you pray ‘Lord, use me’ you can’t later say, ‘I feel used.’
AFRICAN PROVERB ON FAST AND FAR
If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (Mar. 2019)
Previously I wrote about “Year of Wild Adventures”. Several of you commented favorably on my theme for 2019.
You may be forgiven to think my calendar is now filled with preaching engagements potentially resulting in numerous conversions, and accompanied by awesome signs and wonders.
The past six weeks have been relatively quiet; it was a fallow period.
No public engagements. No adrenaline flow as I prepare and deliver “anointed” sermons.
Fallow is an agricultural adjective. It describes soil being turned over and resting so that the seeds planted will be in fertile soil.
This Brief Fallow Season Has Been An Eye-Opener.
“Waiting on the Lord” takes a new meaning.
It meant enjoying more of His presence and company.
This meant wanting more of Him rather than wanting Him for more blessings. Interactive prayers followed. When I asked Him how I can best pray for Pastor A. and his church, “disconnected” flashed across my mind. So, I prayed that he will align himself to God’s will and for healthy connections amongst members of his flock.
One day, quite out of the blue, I felt a deep stirring to contact C. a former worship leader.
I’ve heard a relative of his telling me how C. was going through a rough patch spiritually. I phoned him at his office. He was overjoyed to hear from me, and I suggested that we meet for coffee in nearby Soho.
“No, I want you to come to my home for dinner so that we can have a long chat.”
A few days later I made my way to his home. For three hours, I sat listening to him as he poured out his heart, revealing his struggles to abandon his faith.
For a start, he had stopped going to church.
God’s demands and expectations of him sucked out every ounce of joy and energy.
He spoke of how evangelical leaders he admired for years, gave advice that crippled him and portrayed the God he trusted, as a legalistic deity with his priests dispensing spurious counsel and setting unrealistic goals.
Listening without judgment and asking questions simply to clarify his new convictions enabled him to understand the living Lord is a far cry from the “God” he thought he was worshipping.
When he asked how does he know that the Lord still cares for him, I whispered with a cheeky wink, “He sent me to share your journey, He longs for you to know that he is there amidst the darkness and shadows.”
I could not have been with him, had my diary was filled with public engagements.
And I believe the Lord was teaching me the importance of listening, learning and loving if I were to gently lead others closer to Him.
Later when I returned home, I sent him a couple of quotes from Barbara Taylor, a noted pastor-theologian who has helped countless Christians to know the Lord walks with us in our darkness as well as in the light.
During this fallow period, I was watching more football matches on TV and tonight (27 February) my grandson's taking me to watch a live football game featuring his beloved Arsenal.
When I felt a tinge of guilt overpowering me (shouldn’t I spend more time praying, visiting needy folks, studying etc?.)
I heard the Lord saying, “You’ve always dreamed for more time to view sporting events. Sit back, relax and enjoy.”
You may not believe it.
Soon after writing the above, a flurry of invitations flooded in. My fallow and rest period is coming to an end.
QUOTES
• I have learned things in the dark that I could never learned in the light, things that have saved my life over and over again. There is really one conclusion, I need darkness as much as I need light.
• “...new life starts in the dark. Whether it is a seed in the ground, a baby in the womb, or Jesus in the tomb, it starts in the dark.”
• I know that the Bible is a special kind of book…… If I am not careful, I can begin to mistake the words on the page for the realities they describe. I can begin to love the dried ink marks on the page more than I love the encounters that gave rise to them. If I am not careful, I can decide that I am really much happier reading my Bible than I am entering into what God is doing in my own time and place, since shutting the book to go outside will involve the very great risk of taking part in stories that are still taking shape. Neither I nor anyone else knows how these stories will turn out, since at this point, they involve more blood than ink. The whole purpose of the Bible, it seems to me, is to convince people to set the written word down in order to become living words in the world for God's sake. For me, this willing conversion of ink back to blood is the full substance of faith.
• That is the way God sees us, you and me and everyone who has ever inched his way on this earth. He sees not our history but our destiny. Not what we once were but what we will one day become. He sees not our drizzly gray past but our sun-washed future, a rainbow full of promise arching over the whole of it. For God sees not as man sees. We see the disgusting sinner; He sees the destined saint.
• Finally, I learned that we shouldn’t seek answers as much as we should seek God. We get overanxious. We try to microwave our own answers instead of trusting God’s timing. But here’s an important reminder: If you seek answers you won’t find them, but if you seek God, the answers will find you. There comes a point after you have prayed through that you need to let go and let God. How? By resisting the temptation to manufacture your own answer to your own prayer.
• Jesus didn’t die to keep us safe. He died to make us dangerous. Faithfulness is not holding the fort. It’s storming the gates of hell. The will of God is not an insurance plan. It’s a daring plan. The complete surrender of your life to the cause of Christ isn’t radical. It’s normal. It’s time to quit living as if the purpose of life is to arrive safely at death. It’s time to go all in and all out for the All in All. Pack your coffin!
• We don't see the world as it is; we see the world as we are...if someone has a critical eye, they will always find something to be critical about. And if they have a grateful eye, they will find something to celebrate even in the worst of circumstances...Having a "good eye" in life changes how you see yourself and everything around you... your focus determines your reality.
• Most God-ordained dreams die because we are not willing to do something that seems illogical.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (Jan/Feb. 2019)
A paramount need is for Christian leaders to listen to what the world is saying and doing. John Stott strongly advocated a "double listening". We first listen to what God is saying in His Word.
In order to communicate this Word effectively we must seek to understand what our contemporaries are thinking and disseminating. Hence, in Notes and Quotes, I draw attention to current trends and also ideas/values that leadership coaches are imparting to their trainees.
As a believer in common grace, I've learnt that we have much to learn from the world of leadership and management.
YEAR OF WILD ADVENTURES
It was night. We were in a mini-bus travelling back to our villa. Our minds were reeling with excitement having spent an afternoon with six elephants in their jungle sanctuary.
As the bus careered through the dimly lit streets, I realised that 2018 was swiftly coming to an end.
I whispered a grateful “Thank You” to the Lord for His provision and protection.
I paused to ask, “What will 2019 hold for me?”
I was somewhat taken aback when I received in my spirit an almost instant reply. “A year of wild adventures”.
Wild adventures? Yes Lord, more!
We welcomed the New Year in Hong Kong. On 2 January, I had the joy of praying for a surgeon and a doctor in their surgery.
The Lord marvellously brought physical healing to one and deep emotional release from a deeply traumatic incident for the other.
I sensed Him saying, “That’s for starters.” Wild adventures indeed.
I’ve learnt over the years, that the Lord treats our adjectives and nouns often different from our understanding.
The next wild adventure was a daring dream to link two wonderful sisters in Christ.
The first "A." is a business woman and has recently been asked by her pastor to co-ordinate prayer in her growing congregation. In five years, that church has grown from a handful of believers to nearly 1,200.
But only 20 to 25 people attend the somewhat “traditional” church prayer meeting.
Close to them, was another church and I was preaching at their four services on 5 & 6 January.
Five years ago, I was present when a raft of cells planted this satellite church. Within five years, their numbers increased to 1,500. They had recently bought their own building and are supporting a sizeable staff team.
Their members are prayer warriors! A few hundred participate at their monthly prayer gathering.
Throughout the week, especially in their cells, prayers ascend to God’s throne. Faith, passion, vibrancy and expectation characterize their corporate prayers.
So, my adventurous dream was to connect "A." the new Prayer Coordinator of the first church to the second.
With the pastor’s permission, she was assigned to "P." the pastor responsible for prayer.
From experience, I know that prayer is caught rather than taught.
I believe as "A." joins them and with Pastor "P." encouraging her, she will bring the fire of vibrant prayer to her congregation.
When I was in Chiang Mai, I met two extraordinary Christian workers.
Both were living in this same city, but they have never met.
The first "BM." is from Switzerland and he and his fellow workers have planted a few hundred churches in Cambodia, Laos, Myanmar, Malaysia and Thailand. These are all house churches.
The second servant is "GA." whom I have known for almost 60 years.
At the Lord’s bidding he and his wife "P." had gone to establish a settlement for Karen Christians in North Thailand. This is about four hours’ drive from Chiang Mai.
They run a Bible school training 75 pastors and evangelists. As part of a holistic mission they operate a farm and run an orphanage.
For years, I had kept a warm spot in my heart for the Karen’s.
I was intrigued reading the mighty people movement of the Spirit leading this large tribal group in Burma (now Myanmar) to Christ in the late 19th Century.
When God brings "BM." and "GA." together will there be a fresh synergy of the Word and the Spirit?
Will there be a dynamic thrust and partnership in discipling the Karen’s?
Wild adventures? Yes Lord, more!
QUOTES FOR NEW YEAR AND NEW SEASON:
Pearls of Pooh
“What day is it?” asked Pooh. It’s today” squeaked Piglet. “My favourite day” said Pooh
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God does not change us in order to love us. He loves us in order to change us.
Two words that will change your life…..Yes Lord
Something to Ponder
Artificial Intelligence (AI) Forecast
In an interview with The Daily Mail[2]see article Will an AI take YOUR job in 2019? China's leading expert warns it will take over HALF of jobs within 15 years (and reveals the most at risk careers) URL dailymail.co.uk on 3 January 2019, Kai-Fu Lee, author of [BOOK] AI Superpower, China, Silicon Valley and the New Order and formerly Chairman of Google in China, predicted that half our current jobs will be taken over by AI within 15 years.
In his book, he listed the ten most endangered jobs:
1.Telemarketing/telesales
2. Customer Support
3. Warehouse workers
4. Clerks and Operational Staff
5. Telephone Operators
6. Tellers/Cashiers
7. Dish Washers
8. Fast Food Workers
9. Assembly Line Inspectors
10. Couriers
“AI is powerful and adaptable, but it can’t do everything that humans do. It cannot create, conceptualise, do complex strategic planning, complex work that requires precise hand-eyes co-ordination. It is poor in dealing with the unknown and with unstructured plans.” Kai-Fu Lee[3]see article AI Will Replace Over Half Of These Jobs Within 15 Years URL lopscoop.com
Those unlikely to lose their jobs include psychiatrists, social workers, marriage counsellors, AI researchers and scientists”.
(Could we add pastors? CWH)
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NEW WORD IN THE NEW OXFORD DICTIONARY OF ENGLISH:
NOMOPHOBIA = NO+MOBILE+PHONE+PHOBIA
This is now a new word in the New Oxford Dictionary of English. It is the fear of being without your mobile phone or the irrational fear of your inability to use it.
INNOVATION and INVENTION
People love to romanticize the role of the lone genius, the hero that single handedly against all odds, transforms the world. The truth is that great innovations don’t happen in a vacuum. They are all the culmination of all the work that precede them…… If you examine the life of any great innovator, you’ll see a deep level of collaboration and exchange of ideas. Thomas Edison, who took credit for a ceaseless stream of inventions, actually collaborated intensely with others. Many of his patents have the names of his co-workers on them, which means they
did most of the work.
Albert Einstein, Wolfgang Mozart and Sigmund Freud also worked closely with others. Although they tend to get all the credit their ideas were part of a collaborative process, where they exchanged, modified, stole and built upon existing thought and scientific research.
Whether it takes the form of collaboration, co-operation, or thievery, most geniuses don’t come up with their best ideas alone.
Look at the iPhone. We think of it as a technological marvel, but the real genius is its design innovation. Steve Jobs understood the power of creating a unique and compelling user experience. The technology in the iPhone isn’t that special. Most of it isn’t even made by Apple. The hardware and chips tend to come from third parties including Apple’s competitors like Samsung. What Apple brings to the table is a deep understanding of the customers and what they need and want out of a product. Apple’s major innovation was in the design of the user experience and its app ecosystem.
INVENTORS WHO DIED PENNILESS!
Nikola Tesla (1856-1943) was an amazing inventor. He invented fluorescent bulbs, radio, remote control, electric motor, wireless communications and laser.
Despite his earth-shattering inventions, he died penniless. He had no one to promote or market his products. He was not alone.
Inventors who died without a cent to their names included:
• Johanness Guthenberg – the printing press;
• Antonio Meucci – the telephone;
• Rudolf Diesel – the diesel engine;
• Geoffrey Dummer – the integrated circuit;
• Charles Goodyear – Vulcanization. (ibid p.12)
Lesson? Good things in business are never done by one person, they are done by a team of people. Steve Jobs
HIGH EXPECTATIONS = HIGH STANDARDS + ASSURANCE[4]exert from The Power of Moments pp 122/3
Psychologist Scott Yeager described a study in a High School where 44 students were asked to write an essay about their personal hero. Their teachers marked the essays, providing written feedback's.
The researchers collected the papers and split the essays in two random piles. They appended a generic note in the teacher’s hand writing.
To each essay in the first pile it said, “I’m giving you these comments so that you’ll have feedback on your paper.”
The essays in the second pile got a note reflecting what the researchers call “wise criticism”. It said, “I’m giving you these comments because I have very high expectations and I know you can reach them.” (High Standards + Assurance)
After the papers were returned, the students had the option to return and re-submit their essays in the hope of getting a better grade. About 40% of students who received the generic note in the first pile chose to revise their papers.
Almost 80% of the wise criticism students revised their paper and made more than twice the number of corrections than the others.
What makes the second note so powerful is that it rewires the ways students process criticism. When they get their paper back, so full of suggestions and corrections, their natural reaction might be defensiveness or even mistrust….
But the wise criticism note carries a different message.
It says, I know you are capable of great things if you just put in the hard work.
The marked-up essay is not a personal judgment. It’s a push to stretch.
From Chip Heath and Dan Heath The Power of Moments pp 122/3[5]refer https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Power-of-Moments/Chip-Heath/9781501147760
The pastor who is not praying is playing; the people who are not praying are straying.
We have many organizers, but few agonizers; many players and payers but few pray-ers; any singers, few clingers; lots of preachers, few wrestlers; many hears, few tears; much fashion, little passion; many interferers, few intercessors; many writers, few fighters.
Failing here, we fall everywhere. "Leonard Ravenhill"
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes and Quotes (Oct/Nov. 2018)
Three weeks ago, I was deeply shocked and stunned by what was going through my mind. At first, I thought I was engaged in a harmless past time. I was sitting in a crowded train carriage and to pass away the tedious minutes, I began to label/classify my fellow passengers. Of course, they could not read my thoughts. I did not vocalize my thinking. My impressions became labels: “Attractive” “Ugly” “Fat” “Sad” “Anxious” “Depressed” “High-spirited” “Too Talkative”. I then overheard two workmen conversing in Polish. I identified them as builders. Verdict: “Foreigners taking away British jobs” Seated further away was a Muslim woman wearing her hijab. My imagination went wild. “Why doesn’t she dress like women in the West? She’s in London, not the Middle East Is she linked with some extremist Muslim group?” Suddenly I stopped. Was it a whisper from the Holy Spirit? “What lenses are you wearing, Wee Hian? Is that how a man of God sees people?” I was convicted over my labelling game.
A week later, I was in the New Forest. My wife and I were staying in our grandson’s room. I picked up a book that he was reading. It had an arresting title Repenting of Religion. I started to read (rather, dip) into this paperback and I was hooked. The author Gregory Boyd related his experience in a shopping mall. Sipping his ice-cold coke, he was indulging in the game of labelling the shoppers who passed his table. He too was deeply troubled by his judgmental spirit. He sought to probe its source. He swiftly traced it to the opening chapters of Genesis concentrating on the motif of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. The first earthlings were warned not to eat of its fruit. They could freely enjoy eating fruit from all the other trees. Why did Eve eat of the forbidden fruit from this tree, and later gave it to Adam? The tempter’s words were wrapped in a never-to-be missed opportunity: to be all-wise, with limitless knowledge. They could be like God the omniscient one. After-all, what’s wrong with acquiring good knowledge and being wise? Surely, the Creator God wanted them to discern and make correct moral choices. But a closer study of the biblical text, indicates that they wanted to assume God’s role as the supreme judge over good and evil.
Since the fall, you and I have inherited this judgemental spirit. Once a noted evangelical leader was interviewed by a reporter of a secular press. She asked him what he regarded as the greatest sin of “Bible believing” or evangelical Christians. His immediate reply was “We are notorious for creating straw-men, often imaginary opponents; we set them up and then we misquote, revile and tear them down.” I thought of my past - my eloquence in slanging Christians who hold a theologically liberal position and condemning Roman Catholics for their extra-biblical doctrines. I wanted my hearers to recognize me as one who upholds doctrinal purity. Unconsciously, I had elevated myself as a judge and gloried in my additional role as prosecutor!
I shudder to think of our perspective and attitude towards pre-believers (non-Christians) We are welcoming and kind to those who appear to be earnest seekers. We are attracted to clean-cut students from middle-class families. So much like us. If they come to Christ what a great task force, we’ll have for the Kingdom. Now weigh the negative stance and even the crass comments we express towards those addicted to alcohol, drugs and to music that turn us off. We avoid folks struggling with their gender identity; we look down on those who utter swear words and embrace a hedonistic life-style. Surely, they do not appear as likely candidates for salvation and church membership?
When we recruit leaders, we prefer to select those who think and behave like us. Unconsciously, we fall into the trap of selecting “yes” men and women. As members watch our words and behavior and if we are always judgemental, they will inevitably become like us. We re-produce disciples as we are, not what we like to be. It’s not surprising that cliques are formed and easily recognisable in our fellowships. Inward-looking communities do not attract those from outside. That’s why many churches do not grow.
I repent, and I move away from all the values and judgemental ways that I have inherited as a result of eating the fruit from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. I turn to the Lord of life and I desire to eat fruit from the Tree of Life. I pray, “Lord, change my lenses. Enable me to see people with your eyes. Lord, they depicted you as the friend of outcasts (tax collectors) and sinners. You declared you came not to judge but to rescue fallen human beings. You did not condemn the Samaritan woman at the well for her infidelity. You offered her the water of life. When proud men wagged their fingers at the woman caught in the act of adultery, you did not use the law to punish and stone her. You set her free and urged her not to cling to sin. You recruited Simon the zealot, the freedom fighter, a man of violence to be one of your Twelve. You included a hated tax collector – Levi to be on that team. Two opposites! Your presence and acceptance, not your finger-pointing and exposure of Zaccheus’ corrupt ways made him a child of God and to make restitution for his unjust gains. When you as the Risen Lord met Peter by the lake-side, you could have imputed guilt on him for his betrayal and false boasts. But you didn’t. You spoke the language of love – loving you and loving others. Lord, give me your eyes of grace and heart of love.”
PROVOCATIVE QUOTES
Our fundamental sin is that we place our selves in the position of God and divide the world between what we judge to be good or evil. And this judgment is the thing that keeps us from doing the central thing God created and saved us to do, namely, love likes he loves. p.17
In this fallen way of life, people and things have worth to the extent that they fill us. Instead of ascribing unsurpassable worth to others because the Creator does, we ascribe limited worth to people depending on our judgment of them. Do these people love me? Do they please me? Do they benefit me? Do they affirm me? Do they agree with my opinions? We are the ones who declare that someone or something is good or evil, for we set ourselves up as the center around which everything is measured.” For man is in the state of disunion” says Bonhoeffer, “good consists in passing judgment, and the ultimate criterion is man himself. Knowing good and evil, man is essentially the judge.” p.71
In Matthew 7, Jesus is doing nothing less than contrasting two mutually exclusive ways of living. We either live in love, or we live in judgment…If we stand in judgement and do not forgive, we ourselves will be judged and not be forgiven (Mt.6;14,15) If we do not show mercy, we will not be given mercy (Js.2:13) If we condemn others, we will stand condemned (Lk.6:37) p.111
Love and judgment represent two antithetical ways of living. We either live out of union with God, and thus with our fellow brothers and sisters, or we live out of ourselves as center, in separation from our brothers and sisters. We live either by God’s righteousness or our own. Which way we live ultimately comes down to this decision: Shall we eat of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil or not? Shall we let God be judge, or shall we try to be judge? In short, shall we let God be God and honour the boundary he set between us, or shall we try to stand in the place of God? p.112
Adam and Eve’s story is not just a “once upon a time” story. It is also the story of every human being. The beginning of all sin – the origin of all that is unloving – it is a judgment about God. We embrace a picture of God that is less loving, less beautiful, less full of life, less gracious, and less glorious than the true God really is. From this everything that attaches to sin, everything that characterizes life “in Adam” (1 Cor.15:22) and “life in the flesh” (Rom.7:5;8:4-8) follows. When our picture of God is distorted, we can no longer trust God to be the source of our life. It is impossible to trust God if we don’t believe God is love. p.127
from Repenting of Religion by Gregory A. Boyd
Emanation of The Tree of the Knowledge of Good & Evil?
This year GOOGLE celebrates its 20th birthday. Its motto was “Don’t be evil”. Millions worldwide regard it as the fount of knowledge and consult it daily.
Google remains a remarkable organization that has made astonishing leaps forward in technology in just 20 years. They employ dedicated and talented people, they push the boundaries of innovation, they constantly ask “Why not?”
Google now influences every home in the land. It is present on almost every laptop, phone ad increasingly, our home appliances, making them somewhat omnipresent. Their stated mission is to store all the world’s knowledge, which starts to sound like omniscience. And if we consider in today’s personal information economy, knowledge is power, we could add omnipotence to our list. Such words are reserved for the other Big G. (emphasis mine)
Does this make them an idol? Well, of course nobody worships Google, but you don’t need to. Isn’t an idol simply the authority we turn to most often, the central one we depend on to answer all our questions? In our daily decisions, great and small, I wonder if we genuinely seek God’s input on matters as much as we do on Google’s?
Chris Goswami The Gospel According to Google Article in Premier Christianity September 2018
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes & Quotes August 2018
On my birthday in July, my son Steve gave me a copy of Samuel Chand’s BIGGER, FASTER LEADERSHIP.
“Sam has been a great friend and counsellor. He shares many of your observations and insights on Church growth and leadership formation”.
I glanced at the subtitle “Lessons from the Builders of the Panama Canal”. Instantly I told myself, “I’ve been there in the mid-80s. Yes, it was an engineering marvel, shortening the trip from the Atlantic to the Pacific through the narrow isthmus. That Canal was built more than 100 years ago. “How can anyone glean effective and dynamic leadership based on one visit and reading up the history of this massive lock?” He repeats his over-arching principle on the cover and at the end of each chapter. “The size and speed of an organisation are controlled by the systems and structures”. But as they say, “You can’t judge a book by its cover.”
As I began to dip into its content, I found myself nodding and actively interacting with Chand’s penetrating analysis on leadership, systems and structures. But more important, his practical solutions. Out came my marker pen, and I began to highlight key sentences and paragraphs.
Chand observes that numerous companies and churches go through a life cycle. They begin as a dynamic movement, gather momentum and grow. Soon they operate as institutions and become part of the establishment. Then for a period of time, they stagnate or plateau. When there is no renewal, they decline. Some close down while others feebly limp on. Here is his cycle.
1.The entrepreneurial (discovery) phase is the exciting beginning, when every dream seems possible.
2.The emerging (growth) phase is when the vision begins to take definite shape, leaders are empowered, and the organization sees real progress.
3.The established (maintenance) phase is a time when leaders take a deep breath, enjoy their success, and watch their systems function well. But this phase is also dangerous because it can lead to complacency.
4.The erosion (survival) phase is evident when the organization shows signs of decline, and the earlier vision seems unreachable.
5.The enterprising (reinvention) phase is the result of a deeper grasp of the need, a renewed vision, fresh enthusiasm, and new strategies to meet the need. Giving an existing organization as fresh charge of vision and energy is difficult, but it’s essential for future flourishing.
Most congregations I know are either stagnating or declining. Pastors will give me myriad reasons why this is occurring and usually they release a long blame list – spiritual climate, materialism, rapid changes, difficult and demanding people, young people finding the church irrelevant, lack of spiritual leaders etc.
Chand uses the construction of the Panama Canal to illustrate down to earth lessons on effective and poor leadership.
The French who had successfully built the Suez Canal in mid 19th century could not replicate their feat in Panama. Instead of hot desert air, their engineers and workers encountered tropical mud and heavy downpour. Equipment rusted. Thousands of workers died because of malaria and yellow fever. Chand challenges us to spot mosquitoes in our companies and churches and ways of eradicating these. His chapters on handling conflicts, exploiting creative tensions and tapping the rich veins of diversity make scintillating reading.
Chand’s approach is unique; his principles are applicable to the CEO of a company or the lead pastor of a church. I was deeply stirred how the Americans under President Roosevelt and Secretary Taft tackled initial setbacks caused by inclement weather, difficult terrain and mosquitoes. They engaged the best doctor to fumigate and destroy these pests. They appointed and empowered General Washington Goethals in 1907 to complete the building of the Canal. Finally, in 1914 ships could dock and sail through the canal.
To whet your appetite, I have selected priceless nuggets of leadership truths for you to process and share with your fellow leaders.
Better still, why not purchase the book and discuss key leadership strategy and tactics with your team?
QUOTES
“Many businesses and churches have fallen in love with ‘the way we do things around here,’ so they seldom if ever evaluate systems and structures according to the pressing need and the compelling vision. Culture changes and the delivery systems become antiquated in a hurry. We need to stay alert and nimble, always keeping the vision fresh and open to creative new ways of fulfilling it.”
“In churches and in companies, the ability to argue agreeably is a sure sign of emotional health and organizational strength. The problem occurs in two ways when disagreements are interpreted – or meant – as personal attacks, and when these are allowed to fester into resentments. Most of us want to be known as nice Christians, so we don’t normally come out with guns blazing when we’re hurt and upset. Instead, we can smile as we stab people in the back with gossip, and we build secret - or not so secret alliances against the offender.”
“All change involves loss. So acknowledging the losses before they happen gives the leader credibility in the eyes of his or her team.”
“Recasting a new vision is usually more challenging than casting the original one. The disappointment is a harsh reality, but it doesn’t help to focus on the past. A fresh picture of the future is needed. The leader must construct the new vision in a dozen ways, describing what fulfilling the vision will mean to the people who are touched by it. A clear picture of he future helps people stay positive, and soothes their recurring anxieties.”
“Mosquitoes are bad attitudes, and carriers are those who are infected by these attitudes and spread them.
Organizational mosquitoes?
Those with:
• Passive-aggressive behavior
• Unresolved conflict and resentment
• Gossip and secret alliances
• Lack of accountability
• Being a know-it-all
• Insisting “It’s you fault not mine”
• Jealousy and envying others.” p.93
Q: What in your culture is breeding ground for mosquitoes? p.99
“No matter how beautifully we construct our systems to achieve larger size and speed, we’ll feel as though we are running in mud if we don’t have the right people in our structures.”
“The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice.”
“If you don’t grow, you gotta go.”
“Equipping people involves training in skills, but it’s more than that. We equip people to see their unique contribution to the greater vision so they’re highly motivated everyday. We also equip them to communicate well with every one on the team and in their spheres of influence. We equip them to excel up and down the chain of command with all their peers. We empower them with clear direction and authority to get their jobs done – without them feeling abandoned or micro-managing them.”
“The ability to embrace and use tension is one of the biggest tools in our toolbox to widen the canal to provide greater size and speed for the organization. Tension is an enemy if we are afraid of it and we let it poison relationships. If we teach the benefits of creative disagreement, we will stimulate creativity and uncover more opportunities. It’s well worth the time and effort.”
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes & Quotes July 2018
For two weeks and on a daily basis, I’ve been watching World Cup football on TV. As I write, this prestigious competition watched by millions globally, is entering into the final stage. I plan to watch the finals on 15 July (the recorded version) in California, the day I am preaching at our son’s church.
I jotted these observations as I watched the games with their gigantic cast of players, managers, fans in newly constructed Russian stadia. And I listened in to the comments of erstwhile football pundits and interviews with players and coaches.
THE VICARIOUS SPIRIT
This was evident in every match. As the cameras zoomed in on the spectators, most of them proudly don the jerseys of their teams and waving their national flags and banners. When a goal was scored, two contrasting emotions surfaced. Fans of the wining teams, jumped with joy, hugged one another and applauded the goal scorers with thunderous claps and shouts. Wild euphoria. Supporters of the losing sides groaned with dismay and deep sadness was written on their faces. Tears were even shed. Tragedy struck!
Supporters on the terraces and the unseen hosts of fans in their homes inevitably identified with the triumph or the defeat of their teams. They were in a strange but real way, by living out the fortunes or misfortunes of their footballing heroes. The players “highs” and “lows” are vicariously absorbed by fans and supporters.
I begin to think of the dynamism of congregations.
Why do some grow, and others decline? Do church goers also possess a vicarious spirit towards those who head their churches?
Growing churches are characterised by a “winning vision” embodied in the pastoral and leadership team. They gain the respect and enthusiastic support of their backers.
They are eager to participate in the life, ministry and activities of their church. Declining churches give weak excuses for poor preaching. “You’ve come to church to worship and meet God, not to hear great preaching.”
Small churches justify their existences with “God honours faithfulness rather than success.
Our church is a family; we are small, and we know everyone. Why get lost in an impersonal mega church?”
Believers prefer to back a church where the leaders work with the Spirit to extend the frontiers of the Kingdom and in doing so are themselves propelled for growth.
WINNING TEAMS
They have a game plan.
This may be adapted but the players stick to it.
There is effective co-ordination between attack and defence. Mid fielders play a key role. A team may have a super-star but unless he is well-supported by the rest, his contribution is limited. Lionel Messi experienced this in playing for Argentina.
The super star cannot be relied upon as the match winner; an effective synergy needs to pervade the entire team. During the game great shots and passes are acknowledged. When a player commits a mistake, the rest of team do not fall on him like a ton of bricks.
They encourage him to rise up and play his best. In brief, a great team plays for each other and working together to win the match.
I wonder how many churches have clear Vision statements which are consistently implemented.
Do leaders thankfully report growth? And honestly review both strengths and weaknesses?
Are the different spiritual gifts and talents of members identified and wisely exercised?
What spirit characterizes our corporate life – encouragement and love? Or judgmentalism and negative carping?
THE FALL OF CHAMPIONS
Without doubt, the elimination of Germany in the Group round was the major shock of the tournament so far. They were the defending champions having win the World Cup in Brazil in 2014. I read with incredulity that five out six champions crashed out of the Cup in the first or qualifying round. Why?
Historically, Germany had won the Cup on three occasions and appeared in the most semi-final stages. They’ve been boasting of a massive squad of footballing talents. Why did they finish last in their group behind Sweden, Mexico and South Korea?
The post-match analysis has been revealing. The first factor is complacency.
In 2018, they had won only one friendly game and that was to lowly Saudi Arabia. They could only draw against six strong national teams and they lost their last match to Austria. J Loew, the manager shrugged off criticisms by insisting that he was experimenting so that he could pick his best side. Pundits concurred.
The results told a different story.
The second was his reliance on senior members whose form left much to be desired. Past experiences did not deliver. Then there was little evidence of a winning game-plan; they were in fact trailing in their games.
Playing catch-up is a dangerous strategy when circumstances work against you. For me, the chief factor for Germany’s demise as a super-team, was internal bickering and division. This was leaked to the media by one of their stars.
Wounds were not healed. The body language throughout the games did not indicate unity nor did it demonstrate a winning mentality.
The downfall of the German team sent shock waves worldwide. How are the mighty fallen!
Like many, I had expected them to advance way beyond the group stage. As I reflected on their poor performance, the doors of my memory vault swung open. I began to re-call great churches, Christian agencies, anointed pastors that fell.
I began to realise that numerical growth and success do not guarantee security.
Before every fall, there are warning signs.
The alarm bells ring but we do not listen. We regard glorious past achievements as invincible structures. We forget that termites can enter to destroy the wood work!
Unresolved inter personal issues often wreak havoc. We tend to excuse internal bickering’s as quirks, human imperfections that occur and treat these as passing phases. Sadly, they do not automatically disappear. Then we pay too much attention to resolving ongoing tensions, we can easily neglect our major task of making disciples.
Some churches have well-established and gifted pastors. Under their leadership, they flourish. They, however, are immune to constructive criticisms and reviews.
They will state, “I am called by God. He’s invested me with authority.
I only answer to God authority” They may preach eloquently, fervently attacking sin from the pulpit but because they are not accountable to a godly core of friends, the fell prey to their own lust and pride. When they fall their congregations suffer massive setbacks.
1 Cor.10: 12 issues a clear warning to giants and champions “So if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you do not fall.”
RISING STARS
This tournament surprised with outstanding players from “minnow” nations from Asia and Africa.
They competed with the best teams from Europe and Latin America.
I spotted several of these stars and noted they play in the major leagues in Europe e.g. Bundesliga, Serie A, Primera Liga and the Premier league.
Playing week in and out with top players have established them as rising stars.
QUOTES:
PROVOCATIVE QUOTES
from Yuval Noah Harari.
His two books Sapiens and Homo Deus have sold 12 million copies. His next book, 21 Lessons for 21st Century will be launched on 30 August 2018.
HOMO DEUS: In 2012 about 56 million people died throughout the world; 620,000 died due to human violence… In contrast, 800,000 committed suicide and 1.5 million died of diabetes.
SAPIENS: As far as we can tell from a purely scientific viewpoint, human life has absolutely no meaning. Humans are the outcome of blind evolutionary processes that operate without goal or purpose. Our actions are not part of some cosmic divine plan, and if Planet earth were to blow up tomorrow morning, the universe would probably keep going about its business as usual.
HOMO DEUS: Terrorists are like a fly that tries to destroy a china shop. The fly is so weak that it cannot even budge a simple teacup. So it finds a bull, gets inside it its ear and starts buzzing. The bull goes wild with fear and anger and destroys the china shop. This is what happened in the Middle East in the past decade. Islamic fundamentalists could never have toppled Saddam Hussein by themselves.
HOMO DEUS: No remaining human job will ever be safe from the threat of future automaton.
21 LESSONS for 21st CENTURY: Once AI (Artificial Intelligence) makes better decisions than us about careers and perhaps even relationships, our concept of humanity and of life, will have to change.
.....Leadership is about taking responsibility not making excuses.
.....In football the worse things are excuses.
.....Excuses mean you cannot grow or move forward.
.....People with integrity do what they say they are going to do. Others have excuses.
.....A man can fail many times, but he is not a failure until he begins to blame someone else.
.....It is wise to direct your anger towards problems, not to people, to focus your energies on answers – not on excuses.
.....Excuses are the nails to build a house of failure.
.....True ignorance is not the lack of knowledge but the refusal to acquire it.
MORE QUOTES: Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.
.....Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
.....I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.
“In a New York Times article, Stanford professor Robert Sutton commented, “One nasty person can bring down a whole group. That can happen because the group members devote more energy to dealing with the bad apple and less energy to the task at hand. Moreover, anger and hostility are contagious, so the whole group can become infected.”[6]Source: Leadership Pain: The Classroom for Growth
.....What you do for yourself lies with you when you leave this world. What you do for others live forever.
.....Leadership is the lifting of a man’s vision to higher sights, the raising of a man’s performance to a higher
.....standard, the building of a man’s personality beyond its limitations.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes & Quotes June 2018
Instantly Healed
I fervently believe that God will open doors for King Ling and me to share his Word, his grace and love with many. In the process, we learn unforgettable lessons both from Him and from the people we meet. Our recent five-week trip to Hong Kong, Malaysia and Singapore undergirded this conviction.
We re-learned the truth of Isaiah 55:8 - his ways and his thoughts are different and far superior to ours. At our first meeting in Hong Kong, I was to share and minister to a group of senior citizens. They were eager to learn how God heals; they had seen the miracle of his grace in the life of a lady with cancer that we prayed for a year ago.
When I released the word that God was going to heal someone with a prolonged splitting headache, I had expected a frail grandmother to step up for prayer.
Instead to my surprise a grandmother pushed her 12-year-old grandson towards me, “He’s the one; he’s been suffering from severe headaches for over two weeks”.
She had “smuggled “ him into the meeting for old folks; she had audacious faith that something miraculous would happen.
The Lord instantly healed him.
At another seminar, I had stressed divine healing as a process.
On our part we are to exercise faith in Him and cultivate godly habits and these will facilitate healing. I did invite all present to touch with their hands parts of their bodies that needed his healing touch.
Afterwards, a few raised their hands to indicate that the Lord had healed them because they could freely move their arms, knees or shoulders. Three days later, I received an e-mail.
MLS, a lady in her fifties wrote: “Pastor Chua, God has used you to heal my lower back pain. For three years, I’ve been to several specialists, underwent numerous scans and they could not diagnose the cause. Through your session, I’m now healed.”
Lesson learnt.
God has his ways and timings. He may heal instantly or through a process. It’s not up to us to assume or dictate his ways.
Before this trip, I had felt that the Lord would use me to minister to folks with cancer. I have been heartened by the recovery rate of several people that I had prayed for. I rejoice to hear the testimony of a brave cancer survivor, “It doesn’t matter whether I die of cancer or any other illness. We all have to die. I’m going to die victorious; I’m not going to die miserable.” I was eager to impart this over-comer's attitude to others.
Unknown to me, when I was in Singapore, on 19 May, INSPIRED, a Cancer sufferers and survivors fellowship was holding its monthly meeting in a condominium.
I knew the founders and I even persuaded them to let me share at their gathering. (I rarely invited myself to a meeting!)We sensed his presence. I taught them the over-comers’ habits, prayed for several. I have no way of knowing whether some were healed but was very thankful that many adopted an over comer's stance.
I know of no better way to fight cancer than the “more than conquerors” (Rom.8:37) approach. It was of course awesome to see God's hand in healing and salvation
The Malaysian election
For me, the highlight of this historic journey must be the privilege of witnessing the outcome of the Malaysian elections on 9 May.
Prior to that momentous day, we have joined many Malaysian Christians praying for a change of government.
For 61 years, the BN party had been ruling the nation. Corrupt practices where votes were rigged or bought were well-known.
The Malay partner was not averse to play the racial card when it suited them… What struck me, was the huge number of Christians engaging in private and corporate prayer. Social media transmitted up-to-date prayer news. It was heart-warming to observe Christians expressing such love for their nation when they prayed to God for a change of government.
They did not only intercede but many volunteered as polling scrutineers and joined the crowds in ensuring the ballot boxes were not tampered. I must add that many Malays (nearly all Muslims) were working and pursuing the same goal. Some of their leaders sacrificially gave time, money and energy to roll a people revolution.
I’m positive that God use different means to topple the ruling alliance party.
A close friend, a former member of our church in London was telling me about the Malay candidate who represented the Opposition coalition in his constituency. When the votes were being collected and counted, he thought he stood little chance of winning that seat.
The BN candidate was a seasoned MP. So he turned to my friend and a team of Christians, “Please pray for me and all the PH candidates. I know you Christians know how to connect with God. Pray for a miracle to take place.”
He was voted in and PH the opposition coalition formed a new government.
This was a remarkable answer to prayers and the commitment of the people clamouring for change. I was thankful that another dear friend, a committed Christian, had always stood by Anwar Ibrahim a victim of political “frame up”. He is the Prime Minister elect; his wife, Wan Azizah became the first Woman Deputy Prime Minister. As their confidante and counsellor, I believe he has much to contribute towards the well-being of Malaysia. I was delighted to see Christians exercising their roles as salt and light not only in the “religious” sphere but in the national and political arena.
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward.
The Bible is easy to understand, but we Christians are a bunch of scheming swindlers. We pretend that we are unable to understand it, because we know it well that the minute we understand, we are obliged to live accordingly.
A fire broke out back stage in a theatre. The clown came out to warn the public; they thought it was a joke and applauded. He repeated it; the acclamation was even greater! I think that’s how the world will come to an end: to general applause from wits who believe it’s a joke.
..... Before you act, listen.
...........Before you re-act, think.
...........Before you spend, earn.
...........Before you criticise, wait.
...........Before you pray, forgive.
...........Before you quit, try.............
From Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) British philosopher
....People too easily settle into a life achieving uninspired goals set by others....
From Steve Jobs (1955-2011) founder, Apple.
...Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life...
“You Only Live Once”
.............FALSE.
You Live Every Day.
You’ll Only Die Once.
From Martin Luther (1483-1546) Reformer
...When our days become dreary with low hovering clouds of despair, and when our nights become darker than a thousand midnights, let us remember that there is a creative force in this universe, working to pull down the gigantic mountain of evil, a power that is able to make a way out when there is no other way and transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows. In the midst of danger, I have felt an intense calm and known resources of strength, that only God could give. In many instances I have felt the power of God turning the fatigue of despair into the buoyancy of hope....
From Dag Hammarskjold (1905-1961) first Secretary-General of United Nations
...In our era, the road to holiness necessarily passes through the world of action. Writing in the Foreword to Dag Hammarskjold’s Markings, the poet W H Auden wisely noted that the mot difficult task is “to unite in one life the via activa (way of action) and the via contemplavia (way of contemplation)”...
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes & Quotes April/May 2018
Looking again at Scribes and Pharisees
I recently heard a gripping sermon where the preacher described “scribes and Pharisees” as cautious and concerned people, not as demons. We meet many of their contemporaries in our churches today. Some are looked up as pillars of the church, custodians of the faith etc. They are regarded as upright, respected stalwarts of the community. Thinking of my own spiritual journey, I used to keep company with them. I made sure that those who exercise leadership cross their “t” and dot their “i” correctly O how we love to take theological or moral swipes as those who do not sing from the same hymn sheet as us or march out of step with our version of the Lord’s army. And we frown at those who do not do things according to our tradition.
Different perspectives on church growth
When I became more open to the Spirit and allowed him to re-mould my mind-set and values, grace rather than a rigid law governed the way I made my decisions and related to people. It reminds me of the words of a radical Christian friend who said, “Christianity is not about drawing within fixed lines but expressing our faith with a riot of colours.”
My encounters with modern scribes and Pharisees surprisingly lie in the issue of church growth. When I assumed full time responsibilities of Emmanuel Church in 1991 in London, my passionate goal was to grow and multiply our congregation. I longed for it to be international, reflecting the cosmopolitan nature of London. I still recalled an elder coming to me and urging me not to beat the international drum. I was astounded when he brazenly released what he called “hard words”. “If we have more folks coming from the black community, think of how Chinese parents will feel if blacks were to marry our daughters. Do we want to produce a hybrid church?” He was well intentioned. I didn’t see demonic horns sprouting out of his head. His racial prejudice, however, could have easily destroyed the dream of establishing an international faith community. Thankfully he left our church a few months later and our congregation did become international.
How the Church Grows
When we hit 200 adult members mark and with an enlarged property of our own, we chose to grow along the lines of cell groups. We aimed at growing numerically and qualitatively. Cells were not groups that gathered to sing, study the scriptures and to enjoy warm fellowship. They incorporated evangelism and discipleship; each cell adopted the goal of multiplying itself within 15 to 18 months. We were growing. You would have thought that we were all thrilled. But I was receiving complaints from the scribal quarter. “We use to spend at least an hour in group Bible study. What a challenge it was to interpret the passage and getting firm grip of biblical truth. In our new cell agenda, we are only given 40 minutes to study the scriptures.” They were not warming up to the priority of praying for pre-Christians and seeking to win our pre-Christian friends to the Lord. All they wanted was to have their warm fellowship grouping. Then there was a verbal tussle with another church leader. I remembered him accosting me. “I don’t like the cell framework. When we were a church of 150 nearly everyone was invited to a church wedding. We were one close family. Now only cell members plus a few others are invited. Such a pity.” Church growth from conversions and reaching out became a threat for him. He preferred operating in a cosy family-size set up. That was his comfort zone and newcomers made him uncomfortable.
Why one Local Church did not Grow
Close to our church in Westminster is a local Baptist church. The minister had been pastoring there for 50 years. One day, he invited me over a chat. He had just celebrated his 90th birthday. We had been in our new church premises for nearly a year. This old saint grabbed my hand and began to sob, much to my embarrassment. “I don’t get it. Do you think it’s fair? I’ve been serving here in this church for five decades and my church attendance is dwindling. We are fortunate if we get 30 folks to our morning service and 20 to the evening. You have just moved into our ‘parish’ and your church, I learn, is growing by leaps and bounds. See the organ behind you? I turned round. He continued. “We’ve been singing hymns faithfully accompanied by that organ. No guitars. No drums. Besides, I have unswervingly preached from the King James Bible and never shied away from a gospel appeal. And yet our numbers are declining.”
I thought he might ask me why our congregation was growing. But he didn’t. He simply wanted to air his frustrations. After a while, he composed himself. “Thanks for listening. I suppose the bottom line is faithfulness. In the parable of the talents, the master commended two of his servants for their faithfulness, not their success.” I was going to challenge him by pointing out that the Lord commended them for their faithfulness because they were successful. They had invested wisely, worked hard and were therefore commended. I bit my tongue. I felt rather sad for this old pastor. He wasn’t a winner; he was not willing to learn and adapt to effective ways of pastoring.
Both Faithfulness and Success Commended
Reflecting on my life and ministry, I’m so glad that the Lord wired winning and success together with faithfulness in me. I’m a firm believer in Romans 8:37, where the apostle Paul assures us that “we are more than conquerors through Christ”. He himself reminded the Christians in Corinth that his goal was to run, fight and win. (1 Cor.9: 24-27)
Winning does not mean that we have terrific physique nor does it mean that we pray and do nothing else. Stephen Hawking the renowned astro-physicist, given only two years to live in 1964 when was diagnosed with motor neuron disease, did not cave in to his physical limitations. He did not subscribe to the victim complex. In his wheelchair, he continued to write, research and lecture and his book “A Brief History of Time” sold over 10 million copies. What I admire most about him was his ability to inspire and influence countless students to be captivated by the wonder of the cosmos. Many mourned his passing last month; his body is now interred among other famous men and women in Westminster Abbey.
On 4 April this year, millions remembered a great champion – Martin Luther King Jr. He was tragically assassinated in Memphis, Tennessee 50 years ago. Why is his death commemorated? He was a man who courageously fought inbred racism not with the weapons of hatred and violence but with truth and love.
QUOTES
Timely Quotes from Stephen Hawking
I am just a child who has never grown up. I still keep asking these “how” or “why” questions. Occasionally I find an answer.
Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change.
Look up at the stars and not at your feet.
We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of a very average star. But we can understand the universe. That makes us something very special.
The rate of progress is so rapid that what one learns at school or university is always a bit out of date. Only a few people can keep up with the rapidly advancing frontier of knowledge, and they have to devote their whole time to it and specialize in a small area. The rest of the population has little idea of the advances that are being made or the excitement they are generating.
Stirring Quotes from Rev. Martin Luther King Jr.
I still believe that standing up for the truth is the greatest thing in the world. This is the end (purpose) of life. The end of life is not to be happy. The end of life is not to achieve pleasure and avoid pain. The end of life is to do the will of God, come what may.
Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.
I have decided to stick to love….Hatred is too great a burden to bear.
When our days become dreary with low-hovering clouds of despair, when our nights become darker than a thousand midnight's, let us remember that there is a creative force in the universe working to pull down the gigantic mountains of evil – a power that is able to make a way out of no way and transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows.
In the midst of outer dangers, I have felt an inner calm and know the resources of strength that only God could give. In many instances I have felt the power of God turning the fatigue of despair into the buoyancy of hope.
Winners with Alastair Campbell
Alastair Campbell is well known as the man who helped Tony Blair to launch New Labour and to win three terms as Prime Minister of the UK. He is much sought out speaker and strategy “guru” He spent years interviewing winners in politics, business, fashion and sports. In his book, Winners, he summarises winning traits.
Winners think big and bold. They are ambitious.
Winners have a plan and where possible stick to it.
Winners pay attention to details, knowing that it is in the constant iteration of planning that that winning objectives can best be met.
Winners never give up. They embrace pressures and setbacks,
Winners turn disappointments into progress. They learn from their mistakes.
Winners always want to improve; the desire to improve leads to innovation.
Winners focus on the next win, not on the last one.
Winners know that the physical and the mental are always connected.
Winners have the will to win; this not the same as wanting to win.
Winners care about their reputation and building it never stops.
Winners hate talents being wasted.
Winners hate losing.
Winners win, because they have to.
Campbell noted the winning secrets of Haile Gebrselassie, world champion long distance runner from Ethiopia:
- Use your background
- Use your talent.
- Love doing what you do.
- Have role models.
- Have a good team around you .
- Always maintain discipline.
- stick to a schedule
- Prepare properly
- Focus on your next win
- See the broader significance of winning.
OTHER QUOTES:
ELBERT HUBBARD
• The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: Be satisfied with your opinion and content with your knowledge.
• The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticisms without resentment.
• Cultivate habits that you are willing should master you.
ARISTOTLE
• We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act, but a habit.
JOHN DRYDEN
• We first make our habits, then our habits make us.
Chua Wee Hian’s Notes & Quotes March 2018
was called home to the Lord on 21 February. He was 99 years of age; his death was announced globally. The Queen, past US Presidents and scores of eminent men and women paid personal tributes to this man of God. He had preached to over 200 million people in sports fields. huge indoor arenas; his powerful proclamation of the Gospel was relayed to an even greater audience through TV, films, radio, books and the internet. Without doubt, Billy Graham was acknowledged as the best known communicator of the Gospel. On a personal level, he became a trusted confidante to numerous statesmen.
I had the joy and privilege of meeting him on more than a dozen occasions. Our first encounter was in December 1972 at Lausanne, Switzerland. I remembered entering the hotel lift with him. He and 30 other leaders had earlier heard me giving a 15 minute devotion to the Lausanne Committee on World Evangelisation. I introduced myself to him. With a broad smile he said, “I know who you are - the new General Secretary of IFES; your predecessor was a friend of mine. Thank you for expounding Ephesians 6:18 so succinctly. I made full notes of your message on prayer. And I will preach it one day using your “all’s” – all-prayer, all-times and all-saints.” His words took my breath and left me breathless. Billy Graham knew how to encourage younger leaders.
Six months later, we were in Atlanta, Georgia. After lunch, we walked and chatted together for several minutes. Richard Nixon’s Watergate trial was broadcast live on TV. Billy believed the President’s critics and accusers were wrong and his friend Nixon would be exonerated. A year later, I heard him confessed openly before several thousand people, how wrong he was and the danger for Christ’s ambassadors to be partisan in politics. For me, this is the mark of greatness – the willingness to admit mistakes or misjudgments. My respect for him grew.
Billy used to give the closing message at the triennial IVCF Urbana Missionary Convention in 1970s and 1980s. We were both on the “speakers team”. Each convention lasted four days, He attended every daily planning meeting, He always listened attentively and he enthusiastically backed up every useful contribution. He never threw his weight around. His presence lit these “planning” sessions.
Through his Evangelistic Association, Billy released millions of dollars for conferences that forwarded world evangelisation. I was personally involved in three of these. Generous funds were also channelled to many holistic ventures. I am impressed not only by his generosity but by his personal integrity. He did not follow the lifestyles of some TV evangelists who amassed personal fortunes for themselves. He lived on a salary comparable to what senior pastors would earn in USA. In an obituary published by a secular British newspaper, the contributor noted that Billy’s finances were audited by others.
Some papers have referred to Billy’s handsome looks and attractive personality. As he often travelled alone to speak at rallies and conferences, he could be vulnerable to temptations of the flesh. Once, during an Urbana conference, Billy asked me to leave a contact address for him in his hotel letter box. Since his room was a floor above mine, I thought it was safer to send my hand-written note and push it under his room door. Within seconds, I felt a heavy hand on my back. I was petrified. Then I looked up and saw the familiar face of one of his close aides – Grady Wilson. He smiled and said, “Please don’t do that again, my brother. I could have crushed your bones! I weigh well over 200 pounds.” Billy believed in being accountable and transparent, and he wisely had a team of trusted men around him. This is an illustration of the great care Billy Graham took by making his bedroom out of bounds for everyone. It is well known that tabloids are known to get prostitutes in celebrities room and photograph them to compromise them. I learnt from this never to stay in a hotel room alone.
Billy is now in glory.
I had recorded in a notebook, his adaptation of another famous evangelist
“Someday you will read or hear that Billy Graham is dead. Don’t you believe a word of it. I shall be more alive than I am now. I will just have changed my address. I will have gone into the presence of God.”
https://youtu.be/dxqKLSWcCrI
Billy Graham
SOME THOUGHTS ON THE CROSS
"It is a glorious phrase – 'He led captivity captive.' Psalm 68:18
The very triumphs of His foes, it means, He used for their defeat. He compelled their dark achievements to sub serve His ends, not theirs.
They nailed Him to a tree, not knowing that by that very act they were bringing the world to His feet. They gave Him a cross, not guessing that He would make it a throne.
They flung Him outside the city gates to die, not knowing that in that very moment they were lifting up the gates of the universe, to let the King come in. They thought to root out His doctrines, not understanding that they were implanting imperishably in the hearts of men the very name they intended to destroy.
They thought they had God with His back to the wall, pinned helpless and defeated: they did not know that it was God Himself who had tracked them down. He did not conquer in spite of the dark mystery of evil. He conquered through it."
There is wonderful power in the cross of Christ. It has power to wake the dullest conscience and melt the hardest heart; to cleanse the unclean; to reconcile him who is a far off and restore him to fellowship with God; to redeem the prisoner from his bondage and lift the pauper from the dunghill; to break down the barriers which divide men and women from one another; to transform our wayward characters into the image of Christ and finally make us fit to stand in white robes before the throne of God.
God proved His love on the cross.
When Christ hung and bled and died, it was God saying to the world “I love you.”
The Christian community is a community of the cross, for it has been wrought into being by the cross, and the focus of worship is the Lamb once slain, now glorified.
Where there is humility, there is majesty.
Where there is weakness, there is might.
Where there is death, there is life.
Outside of Christ, I am only a sinner, but in Christ, I am saved. Outside of Christ, I am empty; in Christ, I am full. Outside of Christ, I am weak; in Christ, I am strong. Outside of Christ, I cannot; in Christ, I am more than able. Outside of Christ, I have been defeated; in Christ, I am already victorious. How meaningful are the words, "in Christ."
QUOTES
Worship is the contraction of the word WORTHSHIP, which means to ascribe worth and to acknowledge value.
Worship is a rehearsal for heaven, and what can be more important than that?
Heaven was in him before he was in heaven.
Faith unleashes the power and resources of God. Faith is the key. The key in the ignition turns on the powerful engines. The key by itself has no power.
In the real world it is not the smart that get ahead but the bold.
Pharasaism is very tidy. Legalism is extremely neat. When the Spirit comes in power the church is no longer tidy. It’s a season of “blessing in disorder”
How can a bird that’s born for joy Sit in a cage and sing.
The man who never alters his opinion is like standing water and breeds mosquitos in the mind. Blake (He had “reptiles” and I think “mosquitos” is better
He whose face gives no light shall never become a star.
This life’s dim windows of the soul Distorts the heavens from pole to pole and leads you to believe a lie When you see with, not through the eye.
You never know what is enough unless you know what is; more than enough
Nothing is enough for the man to whom enough is too little Epicurus
First rate men hire first rate men; second rate men hire third rate men.
David Ogilvy, founder of the Advertising Agency Ogilvy & Mather made the above point clear to his office heads by sending each a Russian nesting doll with progressively smaller figures inside.
He left a message in the smallest doll with these words:
“If each of us hires people who are smaller than we are, we shall become a company of Dwarves. But each of us hires people who are bigger than we are, O & M will become a company of giants.”
Denis Waitley Priorities
FOUR QUOTES FROM OGDEN NASH
(1902-1971) noted writer, poet and humourist
To keep your marriage brimming
With love in the loving cup.
Whenever you are wrong, admit it,
Whenever you are right, shut up!
You are only young once,
but you can stay immature indefinitely.
Do you think my mind is maturing late?
Or simply rotted early.
O money, money, money,
I’m not necessary one of those who think thee holy.
But I often stop to wonder how thou canst go out so fast
When thou comest in so slowly.
Chua Wee Hian's Notes & Quotes Feb 2018
BUFFETT’S THREE KEY QUESTIONS
DO I LIKE THEM?
DO I TRUST THEM?
DO I RESPECT THEM?
Warren Buffett is recognised as the world’s greatest business investor. I was intrigued to read the process he follows when he considers investing in a company. His investments are sizable and for the long-term. He begins by studying the history, mission statement and financial records of the prospective company. He reads and reflects on past performances. If all these appear promising, Warren Buffett personally visits the main office to talk to the President, Vice President and the CEO of the company. With his eagle eye, he observes how these top men speak and relate to their staff. He sniffs out the ambience in the operational hub. Before he makes his decision for his company Berkshire-Hathaway to invest its millions, he asks three questions.
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DO I TRUST THEM?
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IF THERE IS A SINGLE "NO" TO ANY OF THE THREE QUESTIONS, Buffett refuses to invest a single cent in that corporation.
My questions
I’ve met pastors and chief executives of Christian agencies who often lament that they do not have many “A” Team people that can make vital contributions to the growth of their churches and operations. They fervently pray to the Lord to send gifted and committed men and women. Pious wishes. But their prayers don’t seem to be answered.
I have been in churches and organisations where men and women of high calibre – both spiritually and professionally see God enthusiastically involved ministries with exponential growth. Before they commit themselves to support these with their time, talent and resources, they raise the three questions that Warren Buffett asks. I once asked a godly entrepreneur as to why he backed his church wholeheartedly through his service as an elder of the congregation. His reply was simple and direct. “I buy into the vision of the Pastor and his associates. I’m impressed by their transparency, integrity and humility. They are honoured by the Lord and the members in the church.”
Ask yourself
If you exercise leadership as pastor, director or manager how would you measure up to Buffett’s questions. Am I sincerely liked/loved by my team and constituency? Do they see me as Mr/Ms Credibility? Do others honour and respect me - my character, words and actions?
As a leader, I’m fully aware of my imperfections and limitations. My co-workers and my constituency see me as one who attempts to walk my talk, to deliver what I promise. When I fail, I apologise and ask them to pray for me so that I will grow into the leader that God wants me to be. I’ve made mistakes recruiting staff that did not share the DNA of our church. One was unwittingly instrumental in driving several key members away by his charming turned toxic personality. If only I had applied Buffett’s questions before their recruitment. Ponder through Buffett’s three key questions and seek to develop a culture of love, trust and honour.
THE SMALL B!G by Steve Martin
I borrowed this paperback from my local library and wished I had my own copy so that I can underline and capture its rich and practical insights. Written by three behavioural psychologists, I found it extremely useful for motivating people and providing them with incentives to switch from bad habits, mediocrity and boredom to passionately adopting life-changing values.
The title THE SMALL B!G speaks of how little changes and shifts can result in enormous differences and outcome. There are 52 short chapters and to whet your appetite, I shall share some of the chapter headings.
What SMALL BIG can persuade people to pay their taxes on time
What SMALL BIG can persuade people to go against the crowd
What SMALL steps can lead to BIG leaps when building relationships, partnerships and team work
What SMALL BIG can reduce people’s tendency to procrastinate (and yours too!)
What SMALL BIG can help you to lead more productive meetings
What SMALL BIG can encourage more creative thinking
What surprisingly simple SMALL BIG can get you the help you need
How might a SMALL touch lead to a BIG increase in value
Please note that these are not gimmicks; they are based on extensive research.
Sample Like tax collectors in a lot of countries, officials in Britain’s, Her Majesty’s Revenue & Customs (HMRC) had a problem. Too many of her citizens were not submitting their tax returns and paying what they owed on time.
For years HMRC posted letters and communication targeted at late payers. These were focussed on consequences…if they failed to respond and pay on time, they will face interest charges, late fees and legal actions. For some these traditional approaches work well but for many others they do not. In 2009, HMRC consulted the authors for an alternative approach informed by persuasion science. All it involved was one small change: a single sentence added to their standard letter.
So, what exactly was this small change? We simply (and truthfully) informed the recipients of the large number of citizens who actually pay their taxes on time.
(In 2008 HMRC collected 290 million out of a possible 510 million pounds – a clearance rate of 57%. In 2009, HMRC collected 560 million out of 650 million debt – a clearance rate of 86%)
But why should so many thousands of people feel compelled to mail in their checks on the basis of a small change to the letter? The answer lies in the fundamental principle of human behaviour that scientists call social proof – the evidence of the crowd. It means that people’s behaviour is largely shaped by the behaviours of those around them, especially those with whom they strongly identify. (pp9,10.)
“O yes! For humans can connect to an object in a very personal way.”
Two products were on display.
One lot of customers were invited to touch them.
The other to view but they were not to handle them.
The lot that touched purchased significantly more of the products. Sellers tend to fix a higher price for objects they personally touch.
What about online shopping?
Successful adverts invite customer to imagine that they could touch see and feel the objects they are thinking of purchasing.
At a seminar, participants will read materials in a bag or file that someone has personally given them.
Again, the personal touch. ( pp 243-246)
You only live once! False. You live every day. You’ll only die once.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
People too easily settle into a life achieving uninspired goals set by others.
I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.
Technology can inspire, encourage and teach. Technology can’t re-produce.
We teach what we know. We re-produce what we are.
CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.
Sean Covey listed what he called the Six Metastasizing Victimism Cancers:
Criticizing
Complaining
Competing
Contending
Cynicism
Comparing
Many people study the Bible without ever being shaped by the text. When we come to the Word with our own agenda, we put ourselves in the position of control. We may look for what we get out of the passage rather than allowing the Word to get into us. We so easily forget that reading the Word of God meant to be supernatural act of co-operating with the Holy Spirit. We’re meant to be listening to the Word with the ears of our hearts.
Select a portion of scripture, then use the following stages:
READ:
Take time and slowly read the passage more than once. Pay attention to a verse, a word or phrase that jumps out at you.
MEDITATE:
Keep focusing on the verse, word or phrase that grabs your attention. Try not to analyse it but as the Lord what he wants to say through it.
PRAY:
Offer your responses to God in prayer. Let his Spirit guide and empower you. Journaling i.e. writing down your thoughts can be immensely helpful.
CONTEMPLATE:
Be still by relaxing in his presence. Let his Word permeate your whole being.” Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly…”
Memory Café:
How to Engage with Memory Loss and Build Community
£3.95
Dementia can be a dark place and it raises many dark questions. When people forget who they are, where is God in it all?
This booklet explores how memory cafés can help churches to support and bring joy to an increasingly isolated group. It proclaims loudly that God loves people of all faiths and none—all equally precious in his eyes—and wants everyone to thrive as part of a community.
Steve Morris, Vicar of St Cuthbert Rev. Church. Wembley UK is also an avid reader of NOTES & QUOTES
Notes & Quotes Jan 2018
STOCK-TAKE
NEW YEAR provides an excellent break for spiritual stock-taking and life audit. Today I addressed these questions to myself. I’m deliberately using a ten-year time span to measure progress or failure.
Compared to what I was, what I had and what I did,
1. Have I grown more Christ-like in my character? Have I enjoyed His company daily?
2. Have I clearly marked my priorities and to what extent have I fulfilled these?
3. In what ways have I grown in my understanding of His Word and His ways?
4. Has my preaching and conducting training workshops impacted and transformed lives?
5. What fruit have I seen in the lives of those I mentored?
6. Have I achieved “up turns” and breakthrough with those I find challenging to relate and work with?
7. What dreams have I fulfilled especially in the fields of writing and net-working?
8. What miracles and mighty works have I seen and experienced in my ministry? Conversions?
9. Identify issues that I’ve been wrestling with Him. What were my losses/gains?
10. Have I been a kinder husband/father/grandfather?
11. Have I pro-actively blessed those who are close to me and to prebelievers?
I listed specific names, events and numbers to the above questions.
Why not try to answer them yourself?
PRIORITIZE
I noted that since stepping down as Sr Pastor in November 2008, the overwhelming administrative responsibilities were considerably lessened, and this gave more time to reflect, to study the Word, write and editing (Notes and Quotes = measurable feat!) I wrote my wife’s life story and two booklets. I learnt to make time for my wife and all our three sons and their families. I’m deeply humbled by the visible transformation of folks I led to Christ and those I mentor and encourage. During the past nine years, at least 10 couples I specifically prayed for were blessed with children. God loves to amaze and surprise us! I’m grateful that He is opening doors for me to share and impart gifts to individuals, families and local churches.
NEW PRESIDENT OF ANC SOUTH AFRICA
At the beginning December 2017, I found myself praying fervently for Cyril Ramaphosa to be elected as the new President of the ANC in South Africa. He is regarded as the candidate who will attempt to stamp out corruption in his country. I remember meeting Cyril in 1976 when he was a student leader and a fugitive of the apartheid government. Cyril had benefited from the courses conducted by one of my senior colleague’s Dr Hans Burki. Values such as justice, integrity, love for God and His Word, working alongside people were instilled into Cyril and other black South African Christian students. Cyril was duly elected. Hopefully, he will the next President of South Africa. And I am so grateful to God that he has blessed the Gospel seed planted 40+ years ago .
It’s time to say ‘goodbye’, but I think goodbyes are sad. I’d much rather say ‘Hello’ Hello to new adventures.
For most of us the problem isn’t that we aim too high and fail. It’s just the opposite: we aim too low and succeed.
We can’t embrace God’s forgiveness if we are busy clinging to past wounds and nursing old grudges.
When you realize your past does not necessarily dictate the outcome of your future, then you release the hurts. It is impossible to inhale new air until you exhale the old.
Stop watering things that were never meant to grow in your life. Water what works, what’s good, what’s right. Stop playing around with dead bones. If you water what’s alive and divine, you will see harvest like you’ve never seen before. Stop wasting water on dead issues, dead relationships, dead people and a dead past. No matter how much you water concrete, you can’t grow a garden.
God has no IPhone, but I talk to Him. He has no Face Book and He’s still my Friend. He does not have Twitter but I still follow Him.
As long as you are green, you’re growing. As soon as you’re ripe, you start to rot
Another year is dawning, dear Father, let it be
In working or in waiting, another year with Thee;
Another year of progress, another year of praise,
Another year of proving Thy presence all the days.
Another year of mercies, of faithfulness and grace,
Another year of gladness in the shining of Thy face;
Another year of leaning upon Thy loving breast;
Another year of trusting, of quiet, happy rest.
Another year of service, of witness for Thy love,
Another year of training for holier work above;
Another year is dawning, dear Father, let it be
On earth, or else in Heaven, another year for Thee.
BE WARNED! ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE
The development of full artificial intelligence could spell the end of the human race….
It would take off on its own, and re-design itself at an ever-increasing rate.
Humans, who are limited by slow biological evolution, couldn't compete, and would be superseded.
THOSE WHOM GOD HONOUR
God couldn’t care less about protocol. If He did, Jesus would have chosen the Pharisees as His disciples. But that isn’t who Jesus honoured. Jesus honoured the prostitute who gate-crashed a party in the home of a Pharisee in order to anoint His feet. Jesus honoured the tax collector who climbed up a tree in his three-piece suit just to catch a glimpse of Him. Jesus honoured the four friends who cut in line and cut a hole in someone’s ceiling to help their friend. In His parable, Jesus honoured the woman who drove a judge crazy because she wouldn’t stop knocking.
The common denominator in each of these stories is holy desperation, People took desperate measures to get close to God and He honoured them for it. Nothing has changed. God is still honouring spiritual desperadoes who crash parties and climb trees. God is still honouring those who defy protocol with their bold prayers. He is still honouring those who pray with audacity and tenacity. And the persistent widow is selected as the gold standard when it comes to praying hard. Her unrelenting persistence was the only difference between justice and injustice.
JORDAN RIVER AT FLOOD TIDE
At flood tide, the Jordan River was about a mile wide. That was all that separated the Israelites from their four-hundred-year-old promise. Their dream was a stone throw away. Bu what if the priests hadn’t step into the river? What if they had waited for God to part the Jordan River? They may well have spent the rest of their lives on the eastern banks of the River Jordan. And that’s where many of us spend our lives. We’re so close to a dream, so close to the promise, so close to the miracle, but we aren’t willing to get our feel wet.
Many people never see God part the Jordan River in their lives because their feet are firmly placed on dry ground. We’re waiting for God to make a move while God is waiting for us to make a move. We say to God, “Why don’t you part this river?” And God says to us, “Why don’t you get your feet wet?” But if you make a move, you’ll see God move. He can move heaven and earth.
Peter is the patron saint of wet feet. He may have failed the persistence test by falling asleep in Gethsemane, but he passed the we-feet test by getting out of the boat in the middle of the sea of Galilee when Jesus uttered one of the craziest commands of scripture, “Come.” …..
The key to getting out of the boat is to hear the voice of God. If you’re getting out of the boat in the middle of the lake and in the middle of the night, you better make sure that Jesus said, “Come.” But if Jesus says “Come,” you’d better not stay in the boat. Ibid pp. 118, 119.
Notes & Quotes
Chua Wee Hian was the General Secretary of the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students in 1972. He is also the founding pastor of Emmanuel Church, Westminister, London. God has used him to equip and empower many leaders for His kingdom. His is a noted international Bible expositor and author and travels to different countries to inspire future generations.
By Chua Wee Hian November 2017
MILESTONE
2017 marks a special personal mile stone. I celebrate 60 years of preaching. On my bookshelves are 42 notebooks, 27 filofax files with handwritten sermon notes. And in my filing cabinet, hard copies ad USB sticks of expositions preached from 2005 to the present. A quick mental note informs me that I have preached to around 500 different audiences in 70 nations.
PASSION
Recently as I reflected my life and ministry, I realize that I’m most alive and passionate is when I’m expounding the scriptures. In preparing my messages, I find myself captured and captivated by the grandeur and grace of God. I am arrested by His timeless Word and I use every ounce of energy to communicate it with clarity and zeal to my hearers.
PASSING IT ON
Recently, I started a Preaching Fellowship (under the aegis of our church) for budding preachers from three London churches. We shall meet monthly and I shall seek to share with them the riches of His Word and my experience in expounding them. I recall that my journey into preaching began in 1957, with hearing and watching two giant preachers – John Stott and Dr Martyn Lloyd-Jones.
For three years, I listened with rapt attention and marvelled at their content – always biblical, clear, fresh and relevant. When I preached in a parish church in Manchester way back in February 1958, I “borrowed” and adapted two of John Stott’s sermons. I still remember the Vice Principal of my Theological College reminding us that all things are ours (1 Cor. 3:21) and his wise comments that no young preacher can preach original sermons!
My road to preaching was reinforced by the wise counsel of my Principal, Dr E F Kevan who openly shared that his vision for all called to proclaim His Word would be both preachers and scholars. He stressed the need to diligently study the scriptures, to use the finest of tools to interpret the sacred text and to rely on the Holy Spirit and the wise counsel of godly men to apply its eternal truth to everyday life.
Looking back, I’m so thankful to God for the priceless opportunities of listening to gifted expositors. Equally, I’m so grateful for the numerous opportunities I was given to preach in local churches. That is why I’m wary to conducting preaching workshops when pastors do not provide opportunities for novice preachers.
No one can become a “great preacher” overnight. I still smile to myself when I purchased a book in 1957 with the title “Teach Yourself Preaching”. It was well written by the renowned Scottish preacher - James S.Stewart. But in no way can one learn preaching from a manual.
PREACHING IN PARA-CHURCH MINISTRIES
In January 1963 I returned from England, to work amongst students in Singapore and Malaya (Malaysia today) most of my talks were topical. In the local churches, my sermons tended to be textual ones. There is a grave danger in para-church ministries – we can repeat our sermons and our minds are not stretched to dig deeper in the scriptures. Dr Oliver Barclay who was for many years General Secretary of the UCCF once confided, “When we have staff with the makings of top class expositors, I would urge them to leave us after five years of service and head straight for pastoral ministry.” He named a few men who were household names, famed for their preaching. They were once his staff members. I thought Oliver was crazy releasing these high calibre workers and communicators.
When I returned to London in 1972 to assume my posting as General Secretary of IFES, Oliver’s provocative words came back to haunt me. There I was undertaking a global responsibility; the national student movements would most likely be inviting me to preach on specific themes when I visited them.
LINKING THE BIBLE TO THE CONTEMPORARY WORLD
From 1973 onwards, I found myself drawing closer to John Stott because I was involving him in some IFES projects and he in turn, invited me to serve on committees relating to new ministries that he had founded. Spending time with him and accompanying him on several trips convinced me that I must shift to expository preaching. I knew immediately this was a huge challenge. Thankfully, I returned to my former local church in London, and there I was able to preach between 15 to 20 sermons per year. I concentrated on Bible expositions. God’s voice was sounding forth from his word. It was no longer exegesis sharing spiritual truths using selected Bible texts to grace my messages. It was sound exegesis linking the world of the Bible to the contemporary world.
Years later, my forte as a Bible expositor was recognised and I was invited to preach at well know conventions in the UK, North America and larger churches in East Asia. But this development paled in significance, when I saw lives transformed by the word and the Spirit. Disciples were growing; leaders were equipped and motivated to extend the frontiers of his kingdom. Some are currently teaching others in Africa, Asia and Latin America to be expositors.
In a few weeks’ time, I shall be conducting workshops on hermeneutics (interpreting scripture) and homiletics (preaching) to a school for church planters. Together with the Preaching Fellowship, the vision of men and women heralding and teaching the Word fills me with joy and excitement.
What Is Preaching: "Logic on fire! Eloquent reason! Preaching is the theology coming through a man who is on fire….What is the chief end of preaching? It is to give men and women a sense of God and His presence." MLJ
Never Separate Them: "The Holy Spirit” and “The word of God”. We must never separate them or we go astray. Some people put their emphasis only on the word. These are the intellectuals. ‘Ah’ they say, ‘Nothing matters but the word.’ They spend their time reading, studying and they become authorities on theology and doctrine. As a result they become proud of their own great knowledge, and they may get the admiration of others who join in with them but this is nothing but a little mutual admiration society.
Nobody is converted, Nobody is convicted. Heads packed with understanding – useless. Word only."MLJ
A Dull Preacher: "How can a man be dull when he is handling such (sc.biblical) themes? I will say that a dull preacher is a contradiction in terms; if he is dull he is not a preacher. He may stand in the pulpit and talk, but he is certainly not a preacher. With the grand theme and message of the Bible, dullness is impossible."MLJ
True Preaching: "All true Christian preaching should be expository… The expositor opens what seems to be closed, makes plain what is confusing, unravels what is knotted, and unfolds what is tightly packed." JS
A Bridge: "Just as a bridge makes it possible for traffic to flow from one side of a river or ravine to another, so our preaching must make it possible for God’s revealed truth to flow out of the Scriptures and into the lives of men and women today. Both ends of our bridges must be firmly rooted if we are to be able to show that Christianity is still relevant today" JS
A New Generation: "We should be praying that God will raise up a new generation of Christian communicators who are determined to bridge the chasm; who struggle to relate God’s unchanging Word to our ever- changing world; who refuse to sacrifice truth to relevance or relevance to truth; but who resolve instead in equal measure to be faithful to Scripture and pertinent to today." JS
PREACHING...
"IT IS NOT": Preaching is not a cooking show! When people are hungry, they don’t want the recipe, they want a meal.
"EFFECTIVE PREACHER": To be effective, the preacher’s message must alarm, arouse, challenge; it must be God’s present voice to a particular people.
"A HALF HOUR": To preach for more than half hour, a man should be an angel himself or have angels for hearers.
"CHURCH PEOPLE NEED SAVING": The problem is, many of the people in need of saving are in churches, and at least part of what they need saving from is the idea that God sees the world the same way they do.
PREACHING and TEACHING
"THE DIFFERENCE": The most helpful illustration of this comes from John Piper. He pictures a herald riding into town, shouting from high atop his horse, “Hear ye! Hear ye! The Emperor has declared an amnesty to all slaves!” That, Piper says, is preaching: proclaiming good news, announcing something that has happened, that completely changes the situation of the listeners. But he then imagines people approaching the herald with questions.
What does amnesty mean?
When does this announcement take effect?
Does that mean I can leave my slave master now?
Will compensation be paid to masters?
And so on. At that point, Piper says, you have to start teaching: explaining the implications of the news, helping people with concepts and ideas they don’t understand, and telling people what they need to do in response, given their various situations.
In other words, the difference between preaching and teaching is not shouting versus whispering, or illuminating versus bamboozling, or revealing versus informing. In a nutshell, it’s the difference between heralding and explaining. Andrew Wilson
ALONE and SILENT: Each of us needs an opportunity to be alone and silent, or even, indeed, to find space in the day or in the week, just to reflect and to listen to the voice of God that speaks deep within us. . . . In fact, our search for God is only our response to his search for us. He knocks at our door, but for many people, their lives are too preoccupied for them to be able to hear. Cardinal Basil Hume
In the Bible, Sabbath rest means to cease regularly from and to enjoy the results of your work. It provides balance: “Six days you shall labour and do all your work, but the seventh day is a Sabbath to the Lord your God” (Exodus 20:9–10). Although Sabbath rest receives a much smaller amount of time than work, it is a necessary counterbalance so that the rest of your work can be good and beneficial.
Thus Sabbath is about more than external rest of the body; it is about inner rest of the soul. We need rest from the anxiety and strain of our overwork, which is really an attempt to justify ourselves—to gain the money or the status or the reputation we think we have to have. Avoiding overwork requires deep rest in Christ’s finished work for your salvation (Hebrews 4:1–10). Only then will you be able to “walk away” regularly from your vocational work and rest.
Sabbath is the key to getting this balance, and Jesus identifies himself as the Lord of the Sabbath (Mark 2:27– 28)—the Lord of Rest! Jesus urges us, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls” (Matthew 11:28–29). One of the great blessings of the gospel is that he gives you rest that no one else will. Tim Keller
Chua Wee Hian
Notes & Quotes Oct.2017
As I reflect on the lives and ministries of those that God has greatly used one common thread can be detected. We have family and friends who love, affirm and encourage us. Their kindness expressed in words and actions uplift us and spur us to do greater things for God and his kingdom.
From time to time I leaf through a note book, in which I have recorded the names of over 300 people who have impacted my life and ministry. Over half of these beloved saints are now with the Lord. Without their love, friendship, wise counsel and encouragement, I will not be the man I am today. I constantly thank God for using them to deposit seeds of spiritual hunger, bold faith, transparency, authentic relationships which have borne fruit over the years. I am of course aware of my imperfections. The signs over my life today are “Under divine construction” and “God is still not finished with me yet.” I am profoundly grateful that God in His wisdom and providence uses human agents to richly bless me. I have emulated their faith, their preaching and experience the awesome presence of the Lord in private and collective prayer. Team- building and the exercise of spiritual gifts are invaluable assets that I have picked up from them. Their influence has been considerable.
When I was embarking on my international ministry in 1967, a wise mentor gave me two adages. “If you hang out with ducks you are going to quack but if you hang out with eagles you are going to fly.” “If you want to fly with eagles stop swimming with the ducks.”
Epictetus the ancient philosopher said it brilliantly. “The key is to keep company with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.”
I have sought to be in the company of such people and they have brought out the best in me. But I have to admit that I have sometimes allowed negative and critical people to set up stalls in life. I recall an incident where one IFES Executive member, gave me a dressing down for not doing my homework as their chief executive. In my eagerness to persuade them to appoint a staff who became unexpectedly available to us, I did not have time to circulate a paper with his CV and a detailed job description and proper budgetary costs. Having a civil servant background, this person expected me to punctiliously observe the protocol of circulating well-documented briefs ahead of time. I was not against it but sometimes in life, one has to deal spontaneously with the unexpected. What upset me, was his tone and his pontification on the virtues of good management. My own focus was on leadership: doing the right thing whereas in management one does things right.
I was shocked and ashamed with what happened a month after that incident. This time I was a Council member of my local church. The pastor was a godly man but weak in administration. I took him to task and criticised him for his shoddy preparation in chairing the committee meeting. I had humiliated him publicly and I was appalled by my attitude. I had imbibed the spirit of my IFES Executive committee member. Bad influences can be contagious!
Years later when I was senior pastor, I noted that the most difficult members that I had to relate to, were those who carried unresolved anger against their parents, teachers or bosses. Their rudeness, critical and judgemental words stemmed from past hurts. So I appeared to them as an authority figure and someone to hit out. Any opinion expressed that challenged their defensive value-system would be met with stinging attacks. Each time I left them, I sensed a dark cloud hanging like a shroud hanging over me. I had to call on the Lord to send the wind of his Spirit to clear deadly and negative air around me.
I have endeavoured to choose friends who radiate faith, hope and love. Their company affirms and encourages me and provides me with greater motivation to exercise a godly ministry. They are the God sent eagles who welcome me to soar with them and to cherish their friendship.
Above all, we need to seek the Lord’s company. I’m always reminded of Ps.16:11 “In your presence is fulness of joy; at your right hand are eternal pleasures.” Pierre Teilhard de Chardin has aptly observed, “Joy is the infallible sign of the Lord’s presence.” Let’s be contagious joy spreaders influencing others to draw closer to Him and motivating others to be the best for Him.
COMPANY MATTERS!
The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.
You are not responsible for what your friends do, but you will be judged by the company you keep.
As much a people refuse to believe it, the company you keep does have an impact and influence in your choice.
Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.
I am thankful for the difficult people in my life. They have shown me exactly who I don’t want to be.
You can’t change people. You must be the change you wish to see in people.
WELL SAID!
Two things are bad for the heart – running uphill and running down people.
We make a living by what we get but we make a life by what we give.
Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of uncompleted task.
There are two principles that you need to play great music or live a great life: concentration and relaxation.
99% of failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.
Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments.
Leaders don’t create followers; they create leaders.
Notes and Quotes September 2017
By Chua Wee Hian
THE VALUE OF FEEDBACK
Recently, I have been noting an interesting trend. Enterprises that are successful and flourishing pro-actively solicit customers’ feedback. A week after our cruise to Alaska, Holland America invited me to rate their services. After the annual servicing of our boiler and other equipment, our utilities company requested my honest appraisal of their engineer’s performance. When I used the toilets at two airports, I was surprised to see machines “blinking” with emojis of smiling, frowning or neutral faces. Whichever emoji I pressed would indicate my satisfaction or otherwise with the state of their facilities. Each press sent my mind flashing to the words of an American pastor in Hong Kong, “You can tell the health of your church by the state of its toilets.” And he was frequently obsessed by the cleanliness of his church’s rest-rooms!
UNWELCOME
John Wooden (1910-2010), legendary basketball coach used to comment “Feedback is the breakfast of champions.”
Sadly, I have spoken to pastors and leaders who are averse to feedback. “Only trouble makers write nasty remarks” “Criticisms lock you in the cell of utter despair” “How dare you evaluate God’s work. It’s carnal to assess spiritual work”. This sentiment was demonstrated when I, on a visit to India, received an earful of angry words when I gently suggested to a Christian executive that he reviewed his financial operations and the way his magazine publicised their ministry. He declared that any human review would demean him as God’s agent and ultimately, an attack on God. Looking back at my own re-actions to criticisms, I regretted the times when I was over-defensive, giving excuses for my shortcomings. I am thankful for the occasions when God gave me the grace to humbly listen and then to work at change and improvement.
OR WELCOME
Someone who was deeply concerned for the health and growth of his congregation, asked me what I would do today if I were the lead pastor. I would talk to six or seven church members asking what they what they like about my church or my sermons and how I/we can do better. I would include a couple of newcomers and my entire staff team. I read of a well-known corporation that welcomes and rewards practical suggestions and constructive criticism from its employees. Online and senior managers study, discuss and act on ones that will enable the company to improve its marketing and production and create a better working atmosphere and relationships within the firm. Are you secure enough to entertain feedback's?
On October 31 2017, Protestant churches will be celebrating 500 years of Reformation. What an opportunity to remind our congregations what the Reformers proclaimed and wrote that resulted in this earth-shaking revolution. They were not proponents of a new theology but they re-discovered the heart of the Gospel – God’s grace displayed in his saving acts in Christ received through faith. On what grounds and by what authority? According to the Scriptures.
FIVE SOLAS
In the past two weeks, I have re-told the history of the Reformation and the lasting legacy that the Reformers have deposited in the Five Solas:
- SOLA SCRIPTURA (Scripture alone)
- SOLA GRATIA (Grace alone)
- SOLA FIDE (Faith alone)
- SOLUS CHRISTUS (Christ alone)
- SOLI DEO GLORIA (Glory alone to God)
Never forget: we are heirs of the Reformation. We need to know what we believe and why both historically and today. I pray constantly that the Protestant Church and the Roman Catholic Church subject themselves to the reforming power of the written Word.
Faith take what grace offers
No one can understand the message of Scripture who does not know the meaning of grace. The God of the Bible is ‘the God of all grace’ (1 Pet.5:10). Grace is love, but love of a special sort. It is a love which stoops and sacrifices and serves, love which is kind to the unkind, and generous to the ungrateful and undeserving. Grace is God’s unmerited free love and favour, loving the unlovable, seeking the fugitive, rescuing the hopeless, and lifting the beggar from the dunghill to make him sit among princes. (Psalm 113:7-8)
John Stott Understanding the Bible p.127
Grace is the ‘free and unmerited favour of God’. It is Paul’s word to describe the loving, underserved initiative of God I giving Christ to die, raising him from the dead and revealing him to sinners. His whole message became ‘the word of his grace’ (Acts 14:3) and ‘the good news of the grace of God’ (Acts 20;24) ‘The grace of God has appeared for the salvation of all men.’ (Titus 2:11). It is supremely manifested in the provision and offer of salvation. Salvation includes the past, the present and the future. It describes God’s liberation of man from all the ravages of sin in the conscience, the mind, the heart, the will and the body; in his relation to God, the world and to himself. It comprises the believer’s justification (his acceptance before God), sanctification (his growth in holiness) edification (his life in the church) and glorification (his perfection in eternal glory) Or more simply, it makes him a son and a saint, a brother and an heir. Such is the grace of God received by faith. The only function of faith is to respond to grace. Faith takes what grace offers.
John Stott Men With A Message p.57
Justification
Justification is a gift of God’s sheer grace, not a reward for any merit or works of ours. For God’s grace is his spontaneous generosity, his free and unmerited favour, his gracious kindness to the underserving. Grace is God loving, God stooping, God coming, God giving. John Stott Messenger and God : Studies in Romans 1-5 p.69
If we come to Christ and put our trust in him, a marvellous but mysterious exchange takes place. He takes away our sins, and clothes us with his righteousness instead. In consequence, we stand before God, ‘not trusting in our righteousness, but in God’s manifold grace and great mercies’, not in the tattered rags of our own morality but in the spotless robe of righteousness of Christ. And God accepts us not because we are righteous but because the righteous Christ dies for our sins and was raised from death.
John Stott Christian Basics p.19
We must never think of salvation as a kind of transaction between God and us in which he contributes grace and we contribute faith. For we were dead and had to be quickened before we can believe. No, Christ’s apostles clearly teach that saving faith is God’s gracious gift.
John Stott The Message of Ephesians p.83
The question most disputed at the time of the Reformation, namely justification by faith alone, now leaves people in the protestant Church just as cold as those in the Catholic Church.
GRACE & GUILT
Preoccupation with self is always a major component of unhealthy guilt and recrimination. It stirs our emotions, churning in self-destructive ways, closes us in upon the mighty citadel of self, leads to depression and despair and preempts the presence of a compassionate God. The language of unhealthy guilt is harsh, It is demanding, abusing, criticizing, rejecting, accusing, blaming, condemning, reproaching and scolding. Christians are shocked and horrified when they have failed
Yes, we feel guilt over our sins, but healthy guilt is one which acknowledges the wrong done and feels remorse, but then is free to embrace the forgiveness that has been offered. Healthy guilt focuses on the realization that all has been forgiven, the wrong has been redeemed. As John R. Claypool wrote: “We all have shadows and skeletons in our background. But listen, there is something bigger in this world than we are and that something bigger is full of grace and mercy, patience and ingenuity. The moment the focus of your life shifts from your badness to his goodness and the question becomes not ‘What have I done’ but ‘What can he do?’ release from remorse can happen; miracle of miracles, you can forgive yourself you are accepted, and begin to start building up the very places you tore down. There is grace to help n every time of trouble. The grace is the secret of being able to forgive ourselves. Trust it.”
Brennan Manning, The Ragamuffin Gospel pp114/5.
NEW EVERY MORNING
When God’s love is taken for granted, we paint Him into a corner and rob Him of the opportunity to love us in a NEW and SURPRISING way, and faith begins to shrivel and shrink. When I become so spiritually advanced that Abba is old hat, then the Father has been had, Jesus had been tamed, the Spirit has been corralled, and the Pentecostal fire has been extinguished. Evangelical faith is the antithesis of Luke-warmness. It always means a profound dissatisfaction with our present state.
In faith, there is a movement and a development. Each day something is new. To be Christian faith has to be new, that is, alive and growing. It cannot be static, finished, settled. When Scripture, prayer, worship, ministry become routine, they are dead. When I conclude I can cope with the awesome love of God, I have headed to the shallows to avoid the deeps. I could more easily contain Niagara Falls in a tea-cup than I can comprehend the wild and uncontainable love of God.
Ibid pp .161/2.
PRAYER
Dear Abba,
I passed them right and left today: homeless vagabonds who are strangers to themselves. Then as I passed a storefront I caught a glimpse of myself, and realized I am one too. I have an address, but I am not at home. I am a man in flight afraid to turn around lest I run into myself.
So I’m clinging to your words this evening: “You have a home…I am your home…claim Me as your home.. you will find it to be the intimate place where I have found My home. It is right where you are… in your inner being…in your heart.” I don’t want to be afraid any longer.
Brennan Manning Dear Abba Morning and Evening Prayer
Prayer is not just a formula of words or a series of desires springing up in the heart – it is the orientation of the whole body, mind and spirit to God in silence, attention and adoration. Prayer is the turning of our entire self to God in conversation.
Thomas Merton
TALES:
Dissatisfaction and failure, far from being a psychological disaster is the fuel that guides leaders to change and renewal. Great innovators always develop their insights not from an appraisal of how good everything is but from what is going wrong.
ATM was a response to the problem of getting hold of cash before and after opening hours. The inventor John Shepherd-Baron created ATM whilst lying in a bath one night worrying, because he had forgotten to go to the bank.
The collapsible buggy was a solution to the impracticality of unwieldy prams. Owen Malcolm saw his daughter struggling with her pram when carrying his grand- daughter and fitting her in.
Masking tape was invented because of the failure of adhesive tapes that would rip off paint when removed from cars and walls.
James Dyson invented his dual cylinder vacuum cleaner because he was frustrated with existing models as they kept losing suction power and letting out a high pitch scream when full.
M. Syed, Journalist.
Notes and Quotes August 2017
By Chua Wee Hian
REST and READ
After our cruise, King Ling and I spent two weeks in Claremont, California. I was thankful to have uninterrupted time reading and praying. I re-read Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point and once again was challenged afresh that a few people at a given time and a given context can bring change and growth to a community and even a city. He wrote of the key contribution of individual connectors, mavens and salespersons who can effectively tip the scales in setting new trends, changing values or starting an epidemic. Can we be on the lookout and encourage connectors, mavens and salespersons to start a movement for significant growth and revolution?
I was also reading Mark Batterson’s seminal books on prayer. God has used him not only to write so brilliantly on prayer, but in his church in Washington DC, he has seen Him answering prayers beyond his wildest dreams (Eph.3:20) Mark has a marvellous ability to challenge us to circle problems and dreams. It’s a pleasure to share quotes both from Mark Batterson and Malcolm Gladwell. Both authors have had books on the New York Times bestsellers list.
The tipping point is the magic moment when an idea, trend or social behaviour crosses a threshold, tips and spreads like wildfire.
If you want to bring a fundamental change to peoples’ belief and behaviour, you need to create a community around them, where those with new beliefs can be practised, expressed and nurtured.
“In the end, Tipping Points are a reaffirmation of the potential for change and the power of intelligent action. Look at the world around you. It may seem like an immovable, implacable place. It is not. With the slightest push—in just the right place—it can be tipped.”
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CONNECTORS:
“These people who link us up with the world, who bridge one person to another and who introduce us to our social circles – these people on whom we rely on more heavily than we realize – are Connectors, people with a very special gift of bringing people together.”
“A Connector might tell ten friends where to stay in Los Angeles, and half of them might take his advice. A Maven might tell five people where to stay in Los Angeles but make the case for the hotel so emphatically that all of them would take his advice. These are different personalities at work, acting for different reasons. But they both have the power to spark word-of-mouth epidemics.”
Connectors are social glue: they spread it.
MAVENS:
“A Maven is a person who has information on a lot of different products or prices or places. This person likes to initiate discussions with consumers and respond to requests … they like to be helpers in the marketplace. They distribute coupons. They take you shopping. They go shopping for you … This is the person who connects people to the marketplace and has the inside scoop on the marketplace.”
Mavens are data banks. They provide the message.
SALESPEOPLE:
“But there is also a select group of people – Salesmen – with the skills to persuade us when we are unconvinced of what we are hearing, and they are as critical to the tipping of word-of-mouth epidemics as the other two groups.”
They can take an idea, make it sticky and accessible, and position it to get a tribe behind it. Salespeople are your storytellers and masters of persuasion. These are the people who can borrow your watch and then sell it back to you. They just have this uncanny ability to get you to buy into whatever they’re selling, whether it’s an idea, a plan, or a product – it doesn’t matter.
Salespeople make change happen through persuasion.
***** ****** ******
Hard work is only a prison sentence if you lack motivation.
***** ****** ******
Achievement is talent plus preparations.
***** ****** ******
One of the biggest misconceptions about prayer is that it means outlining our agenda to God as a divine do-list.
The true purpose of prayer is to get into God’s presence so He can outline His agenda for us.
***** ****** ******
If you pray to God regularly, irregular things will happen to you on a regular basis.
***** ****** ******
God is always preparing and positioning us for divine appointments.
***** ****** ******
If you seek answers you won’t find them but if you seek God, the answers will find you.
***** ****** ******
It is my experience, it’s much easier to act like a Christian then it is to react as one. Anyone can put on an act. But your reactions reveal what is really in your heart.
***** ****** ******
God is the Composer – your life is His musical score.
God is the Artist – your life is in His canvas.
God is the Architect – your life is His blueprint.
God is the Writer – you are His book.
***** ****** ******
If you aren’t hungry for God, you are full of yourself.
***** ****** ******
Faith is rewiring the human brain. We are literally upgrading our minds by downloading the mind of Christ.
***** ****** ******
You can have faith or you can have control but you can’t have both.
***** ****** ******
Whatever you don’t turn into PRAISE will turn into PRIDE.
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Over the years I’ve grown more comfortable with making people uncomfortable because that is when growth can happen.
You need a little conflict. You need a little tension. And that is part of my calling. A little tough love goes a long way.
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Notes and Quotes July 2017
The Chuas share generational blessings from three generations
Forage for Understanding! Don’t forget one word! Don’t deviate an inch! ... Above all and before all, do this: Get Wisdom! Write this at the top of your list: Get Understanding! Proverbs 4 The Message (MSG)
The Spirit gives life, the flesh counts for nothing. The words I have spoken to you are spirit and they are life. John 6:63
And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who lives in you. Roman. 8:11
We have just returned from four weeks of fruitful ministry in Hong Kong, Singapore and Malaysia. It’s been amazing and humbling to witness the Lord unleashing His love and power through the exposition of His Word. Many welcomed Jesus into their lives; believers were energised afresh by His Spirit. We watched with wonder and awe at His mighty working in different lives.
Two verses - John 6:33 and Romans 8:11- governed my preaching and sharing. The Lord Jesus declared that his words were spirit and life. It’s so easy for preachers to use clever and select words to impress our hearers. His words empowered by the Spirit gave life. And when we proclaim His Word, we should be expecting to witness its transforming impact.
In Romans 8:11, Paul reminds us that the Indwelling Spirit is the life-giver. If He is resident, we can speak life to our mortal bodies. This includes healing words to our limbs and organs that are attacked by alien viruses or nagging pain.
On our recent trip, three events demonstrated the reality of the life-giving words and work of the Holy Spirit.
In Hong Kong, King Ling and I were having lunch with D, a well- known surgeon. Three years ago, he was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and given weeks to live. Her sister begged me to bring God’s healing to him. I gave him something far better than immediate healing. I led him to Christ; he was given new life and hope! In his name and with his strength, I encouraged D. to fight his cancerous cells. He is very much alive today and enjoying fullness of life (John 10:10)
On Sunday 25 May, M. & J. an Indian couple brought their six month old baby son B. for special blessing at St Andrew’s Cathedral, Singapore In March 2016, M. sought me out after I had preached a holy week homily. She sensed that God had anointed me to bring life to her and to her husband by giving them a child. I prayed and spoke life to her womb. Nine months later, God gave her a lovely son and it was an immense privilege to bless J. and his parents.
Two weeks later, a couple rushed towards me after I had preached at SIB, KL. They were proudly holding J. their 11 month old son. His mother W. was in the worship team when she heard me sharing how we spoke cleansing and life to a hedge- fund manager from China. The latter had suffered three miscarriages. Unknown to me, W. had a similar history. In faith, she identified with the woman from China and believed that God could repeat the miracle. Again, I spoke life to her and into her womb. The Lord marvellous answered prayer. How amazing that we can partner the Spirit and be His agents in bringing life and joy to others.
Finally, it was a unique experience to minister together with our oldest son Andrew and his son, Ben at the St Andrews’ Family Conference (5-8 June) We preached, interacted and shared together demonstrating the wonder of generational blessing. I shall never forget the final evening. With King Ling joining us, we saw many overwhelmed by the Spirit as we blessed and prayed for each one that came forward to receive His touch and love.
It’s a rewarding experience to re-read books that impacted us. It’s like meeting old friends again. I viewed the sentences that I had underlined in Ian Leslie’s CURIOUS. Here are some gems for you to treasure and share.
It turns out that when most people get their hands on a computer, rather than pursue their curiosity what they want to do is to play Angry Birds. ‘Despite the educational potential of computers, the reality is that their use for education… is miniscule compared to their use for pure entertainment’ said Vicky Rideout. ‘Instead of closing the achievement gap, they’re widening the time-wasting gap.’ p.130
In his compelling book How Children Succeed Paul Tough argued that we have over-estimated the extent to which successful learning depended on intelligence, and under-estimated the importance of non-cognitive traits – put simply, character. He focuses on the motivation to learn, in particular the trait of persistence. Citing Angela Duckworth, Tough shows the achievement of children – and adults – is dependent on their level of “grit” – a combination of self-control, focus and an ability to recover well from failure or disappointment. A test of a student’s willingness to persist in a boring task is a much better predictor of achievement than a test of intelligence. The most successful students aren’t the cleverest; they are the ones who don’t give up. p.188
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ARE YOU A THINKERER?
Thinkerer = think + tinker.
Thinkering describes a social, collaborative way of working. I’m using it to name a style of cognitive investigation that mixes the concrete and abstract, toggling between the details and the big picture, zooming out to see the wood and back again to examine the bark on the tree. Peter Theil, co-founder of PayPal in a lecture at Stanford University remarked: A fundamental challenge –in business as in life- is to integrate the micro with the macro such that all things make sense. Humanities majors may well learn a great deal about the world. But they don’t really learn career skills through their studies. Engineering majors, conversely, learn in great technical detail. But they might not learn, why, how or where they should apply their skills in the workforce. The best students, thinkers and workers will integrate these questions into a cohesive narrative.
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MORE QUOTES to reflect
Everything that irritates us can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
There are numerous reasons why individuals resist change. The five most common are fear, comfort with the status quo, having no say in the changes, no sense of possible benefit, and finally being a stakeholder in the present way of doing things.
The word ‘Christian’ means different things to different people. To one person it means a stiff, upright, inflexible way of life, colourless and unbending. To another it means a risky, surprised-filled adventure, lived tiptoe at the edge of expectation.. If we get our information from biblical material, there is no doubt that the Christian life is a dancing, leaping and daring life.
Christians don’t simply learn or study or use Scripture; we assimilate it, take it into our lives in such a way that it metabolized into acts of love, cups of cold water, missions into all the world, healing and evangelism and justice in Jesus’ name, hands raised in adoration of the Father, feet washed in company of the Son.
All the persons of faith I know are sinners, doubters, uneven performers. We are secure not because we are sure of ourselves but because we trust that God is sure of us.
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Thomas L. Friedman: The World is Flat, A Brief History of 21 century
Notes and Quotes May/June 2017
Chua Wee Hian was the General Secretary of the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students in 1972. He is also the founding pastor of Emmanuel Church, Westminster, London. God has used him to equip and empower many leaders for His kingdom. His is a noted international Bible expositor and author and travels to different countries to inspire future generations. He and his wife King Ling have three sons who together with their wives and children are fully committed to sharing God’s Word and love in the market place and local church.
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Inter-generational Preaching Sharing by Grandpa, Son, Grandson.
PREACHERS tend to look back at their “first” – first sermon, first time speaking in country X, in a hotel, under canvas, open air, in a sports arena. I shall always remember preaching barefooted in Japan; giving my first exposition in a second language (Chinese!) and having my message interpreted the first time into German. I’m having another “first” in four weeks’ time – preaching together with our oldest son Andrew and his son, Ben.
St Andrews Cathedral Singapore has invited us to speak on Living a Legacy at their conference. Andrew and Ben will respond and interact with my sermon and I, with Andrew’s. Inter-generational preaching. This will be an exciting first for all three of us and for our dear friends from the cathedral.
Messages will include legacy in family identity, wise use of words and time, work and vocation. I’m concluding the series with the legacy of overcoming (fears, anxieties, failures) So in this combined issue, I’m re-producing quotes on legacy, failures, setbacks and success.
Pass it down the generations
I’ve spent the past weeks working through generational blessings. The Lord God revealed himself to Moses as the “God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob” the tri-generational God (Ex.6:3)
He added his other name/title – GOD ALMIGHTY.
Hebrew EL SHADDAI expresses His sufficiency, resources and power. Isaac blessed Jacob using this name (Gen.28:3) When Jacob eventually returned to Canaan, he was eager for his descendants to acknowledge the Lord as EL SHADDAI (Gen. 35) I was deeply struck that the Psalmist addresses the Lord as “The Almighty, the God of Jacob”. (Ps. 46:7,11) Generational blessing underscores the need for every generation to know Him as El Shaddai.
Legacy is defined in terms of character, values and faith. In faithfully exercising faith in an all-sufficient God, treasuring his values and reflecting his character, we shall have priceless legacy to share with those and near to us.
Powerful words
“Thank you” as two powerful words. I emphasise another set of two words “I’m sorry.” These have lasting impact if we add “Please forgive me”. All our three sons are actively following and serving the Lord today. An important factor in their commitment and devotion to the Lord was when they watched us – their Mum and Dad apologising to each other and we in turn asking them to forgive us when we hurt or misunderstood them. This was not easy for Chinese parents like us. They recognised that we live under Christ’s lordship and values. Hence, we did not hide our weaknesses and vulnerability from them. The legacy we’ll leave for them lies not in our estate and financial assets but in their godly character and values undergirded by faith in Him.
LEGACY
It is not a parent’s responsibility to have godly children. It’s a parent’s responsibility to make sure their children have godly parents. Your children will become what you are. So be what you want them to be.
One measure of leadership is the calibre of people who choose to follow you.
A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there.
Normality is a paved road. It’s a comfortable road to walk but no flowers grow there.
The world needs dreams and the world needs doers. But above all, the world needs dreamers that do.
Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.
Never, never stop growing. Plateaus should only be found in geography books, not in personal experience.
We live in a culture of excellence where success is everything. Winners win fame and fortune; losers get nothing. If the media is to be believed, winners are a race apart, each one a Midas turning everything they touch into gold.
But the reality is we all have feet of clay and the world is fickle in its distribution of good fortune and loss. What is important is how you deal with failure. Successful people fail just as much as the rest of us, but the difference is how they regard failure, how they manage it, how they turn it into success.
Notes and Quotes April 2017
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Chua Wee Hian was the General Secretary of the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students in 1972. He is also the founding pastor of Emmanuel Church, Westminister, London. God has used him to equip and empower many leaders for His kingdom. His is a noted international Bible expositor and author and travels to different countries to inspire future generations. He and his wife King Ling have three sons who together with their wives and children are fully committed to sharing God’s Word and love in the market place and local church.
We are posting not only his quotes but his commentary and thoughts on different issues.
Thank You. When spoken or written, it spells joy and appreciation It holds a double blessing; it blesses both the giver and the receiver. According to Paul, Spirit-filled believers are thankful people (Eph.5:18,20;1Thes.5:18)
Yet “thank you” is often missing in our vocabulary. Why do we find it difficult to express thanks especially to others?
Some years ago, we were supporting a close relative through Bible College. Each quarter, we remitted 20% of our salaries to him. For almost two years, we did not receive a single word of thanks from him. I decided to write him asking why he did not thank us for out gifts.
Back came his answer. “If I were to thank you both, you will not receive the Lord thanks and blessings”. A hyper-spiritual answer!
Thankfully, he changed his response when he read how Paul constantly thanked his readers and supporters for their financial backing.(Phil.1:3;4:10-14)
When I was serving as General Secretary of IFES, I made “thank you” letters a priority. And I often added a personal hand-written note to express my personal appreciation. Sometimes I enquired about their well-being. Many continued to be generous supporters. Later, when I was the lead pastor of my church, I would acknowledge gifts with a “thank you” note.
Then some well-meaning Council members thought it was not a good idea for the pastor to know how much members have contributed. They suggested quarterly receipts. I acceded to their proposal. Surprisingly, our church income dropped by nearly 20%! Personal expression of gratitude goes a long way.
A few weeks ago, I was preaching on God’s view on money. I decided to hold a Q & A session.. A worship leader asked whether volunteers who took on a regular role of service in church should be financially remunerated. Brought up in the noble tradition of generous and unpaid lay volunteers, I was taken aback.
Instead of answering her question, I asked her why she raised it?
Her answer went somewhat like this. “We have to work hard ensuring that are in church on time and carefully rehearsing our songs. We are taken for granted. No one thanks or affirms us. It’s only once a year when thanks is expressed at the AGM to all who work hard through the year.” She therefore thought a financial remuneration will be a tangible form of acknowledgement. In vibrant congregations, I noted how pastors and elders would verbally thank helpers both up front and in private.
Whenever I preach, I have made it my practice to thank the worship and PA teams for their commitment and contribution. By saying “thank you” we promote team spirit and goodwill.
I am fully aware in some cultures e.g. Chinese- there is a subtle kind of reasoning. If you thank someone who is close to you or a regular at work/church, you put yourself under an obligation. If your boss praises you, he should give you a raise! Financially it may not be prudent for him to voice his commendation.
Some find find it awkward to thank parents or children verbally. Of course we treasure them, we appreciate their love and contributions. But we store our gratitude in our hearts. When my Mother was dying, I remembered thanking her for teaching me to pray, to write legibly and to enjoy reading. She was touched. I wished that I had expressed my thanks much earlier and more frequently. I have seen young preachers shedding a tear or two when I genuinely thanked them for the sermon. “Thank you” from seniors, can light up the day for many. Let’s be generous with our “thank you”. CWH
QUOTES
THANKFULNESS & GRATITUDE
It is not happy people who are thankful. It is thankful people who are happy.
Those blessings are the sweetest that are won with prayer and won with thanks.
O Lord that lends me life, lend me a heart replete with thankfulness.
Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put into words is all that is necessary.
To be grateful is to recognise the love of God in everything he has given us. Every breath we draw is a gift of his love every moment of existence is grace. Gratitude therefore takes nothing for granted, is never unresponsive, is constantly awakening to new wonder and the praise of God’s goodness.
Thou hast given so much to me
Give one thing more – a grateful heart.
Not thankful when it pleaseth me,
As if Thy blessings had spare days;
But such a heart, whose pulse may be Thy praise.
HUMAN BEING OR HUMAN DOING?
We devote a lot of our energy to “becoming”. Some dedicate themselves to become successful, or becoming free, or popular, or thin – the list goes on and on. Scripture invites us to give up the obsession with becoming and work harder at “being” the unique creation of God by exploring the rich mystery that has been revealed in every life.... Many today think they can change their “being,” who they are, by changing what they do. Our society claims that if we want to be happy, we have to do something different. We are offered new products that will do it for us, new lovers to do it with, and new vocations to give us work to that will make us significant. Behind them all is the common lie that what we do creates who we are.
We begin to hear the lie at an early age. When you were a child and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, you were not expected to say “Myself!” The answers we were trained to give were more like “fireman” “an astronaut” “a teacher” or “a doctor” – all things that people do. In truth, doing does not determine being; rather being determines doing. It is only after we have a firm understanding of who we are that we know what to do with life. pp.80,81.
In both the Old and New Testaments, mountains serve as settings for divine-human encounters. It only takes a few minutes on the top of a high mountain for one to know why God so frequently chose this setting. High peaks are barren, intimidating places. People don’t belong up there. There is nothing to protect them – no trees, no shelter, just the wind and the uncomfortable thin air. The mountain climber knows that if the weather changes suddenly, he or she is so exposed that death could come very quickly. To stand on the mountain top I to place ourselves in the hands of the forces and powers we cannot control or even resist. Centuries of religious experience have taught us that we are most capable of hearing God when we know how exposed we really are. That is why worship must have this sense of climbing a high mountain to stand before God, rising above the illusion of being in control of life. p.105
GRACE FOR THE DAY
In the entire history of the universe, let alone in your own history, there has never been another day just like today, and there will never be another just like it again. Today is the point to which all your yesterdays have been leading since the hour of your birth. It is the point from which all your tomorrows will proceed until the hour of your death. If you were aware of how precious today is, you could hardly live through it. Unless you are aware of how precious it is, you can hardly be said to be living at all. (FB)
The grace of God means something like: Here is your life. You might never have been, but you are because the party wouldn't have been complete without you. Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don't be afraid. I am with you. Nothing can ever separate us. It's for you I created the universe. I love you. There's only one catch. Like any other gift, the gift of grace can be yours only if you'll reach out and take it. Maybe being able to reach out and take it is a gift too. (FB)
PATH of METANOIA = REPENTANCE
Paranoia is a word that has entered the popular vocabulary. Literally, (although, of course, not technically) it means to be out of your mind. To be paranoid is to have lost your way, like Dante wandering in a land that is far from home. There is another word, which has not yet entered popular speech, for the turning of the mind to the lost home: metanoia.
"The path of metanoia is a way of glory which leads us home. Paranoia (to be out of your mind) is that process by which the mind is unhinged and the personality splintered and fragmented. Metanoia (to turn the mind, to be right in your mind), which is usually translated in the New Testament as repentance, means the restoration of mind, the coming together of the shattered fragments of the self. It means a turning to God as the source and the power of life."
MORE QUOTES to REFLECT and RELEASE
The future belongs to those who see possibilities before they become obvious
A leader’s job is to look into the future and see the organisation, not as it is, but as it should be.
There is nothing like a dream to create the future. (LM) | The future has several names. For the weak, it is impossible; for the faint-hearted it is unknown; but for the valiant it is ideal. (LM)
We cannot re-write the past but we can write the future.
Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward.
You have never tested God’s resources until you have attempted the impossible.
DECISION-MAKING:
Cowardice: Is it safe?
Consensus: Is it popular?
Conscience: Is it right?
STRANGE ODDS?
Here in Britain, the Lottery adverts tantalisingly shout out “It could be you!” The lottery has trapped half our population into dreaming dreams of untold happiness leading to endless frustrations. The dream rarely amounts more to anything more than a growing weekly expense. A BBC reporter astute observes: You can see in people in any Newsagent buying lottery tickets at odds of millions to one and thinking “it could be me”. Then they buy a packet of cigarettes with odds of about three to one – and thinking “it won’t be me”.
ORIGINAL QUOTE:
When a king dies, his power ends. When a prophet dies, his influence begins.
The tyrant dies, his rule ends. The martyr dies, his influence begins.
AFFLICTION:
When I am in the cellar of affliction, I look for the Lord’s choicest wines. (SR) | Grace grows best in winter. (SR)
COMMITMENTS - FOUR TYPES
1. Cop-outs People who have no goals and do not commit
2. Hold-outs People who don’t know if they can reach their goals, and are afraid to commit.
3. Drop-outs People who start towards a goal but quit when the going’s tough.
4. All-outs People who set goals, commit to them and pay the price to reach them.
2017 MARCH: Quotes Quoted!
Chua Wee Hian has been contributing “Quotes “ to our website for more than two years. We have known him since Malaysia days 50 years ago since he was the General Secretary of the International Fellowship of Evangelical Students in 1972. He is also the founding pastor of Emmanuel Church, Westminster, London. God has used him to equip and empower many leaders for His kingdom. His is a noted international Bible expositor and author and travels to different countries to inspire future generations. He and his wife King Ling have three sons who together with their wives and children are fully committed to sharing God’s Word and love in the market place and local church.
Starting from 2017 we are posting not only his quotes but his commentary and thoughts on different issues.
2017... BIBLICAL (NOT RACIAL/CULTURAL/RELIGIOUS) RESPONSE
The first 40 days of Trump’s presidency have stirred fierce controversy on divisive issues. It is so easy for us Christians to side him on his immigration and travel bans against people he believed are a threat to the security and well being of USA. Already anti-Muslim rhetoric with its equally angry response and anti-semitism attacks have reared their ugly heads and voices.
What should be our biblical (not racial/cultural/religious) response?
If these were to persist, we are heading for a period of violence.
It is therefore, refreshing to read the writings of Lord Dr Jonathan Sacks. former Chief Rabbi, UK. I was held spell bound by his book Not in God’s Name.
For all who minister in a multi-religious nation, this is a must read book. To whet your appetite, I have included a few quotes from this volume and from some of his other titles. CWH
The test of faith is whether I can make space for difference. Can I recognize God's image in someone who is not in my image, whose language, faith, ideal, are different from mine? If I cannot, then I have made God in my image instead of allowing him to remake me in his.”
“The idols of today are unmistakable - self-esteem without achievement, sex without consequences, wealth without responsibility, pleasure without struggle and experience without commitment.”
The contemporary West is the most individualistic era of all time. Its central values are in ethics, autonomy; in politics, individual rights; in culture, postmodernism; and in religion, ‘spirituality’. Its idol is the self, its icon the ‘selfie’, and its operating systems the free market and the post-ideological, managerial liberal democratic state. In place of national identities we have global cosmopolitanism. In place of communities we have flash-mobs. We are no longer pilgrims but tourists. We no longer know who we are or why.”
What the secularists forgot is that Homo sapiens is the meaning-seeking animal. If there is one thing the great institutions of the modern world do not do, it is to provide meaning. Science tells us how but not why. Technology gives us power but cannot guide us as to how to use that power. The market gives us choices but leaves us uninstructed as to how to make those choices. The liberal democratic state gives us freedom to live as we choose but on principle refuses to guide us as to how to choose.”
Too often in the history of religion, people have killed in the name of the God of life, waged war in the name of the God of peace, hated in the name of the God of love and practised cruelty in the name of the God of compassion. When this happens, God speaks, sometimes in a still, small voice almost inaudible beneath the clamour of those claiming to speak on his behalf. What he says at such times is: Not in My Name.”
When Jacob was chosen, Esau was not rejected. God does not reject. “Though my mother and father might abandon me, the Lord will take me in” (Psalms 27:10). Choosiness means two things: intimacy and responsibility. God holds us close and makes special demands on us. Beyond that, God is the God of all mankind – the Author of all, who cares for all.”
“To be a leader, you do not need a crown or robes of office. All you need to do is to write your chapter in the story, do deeds that heal some of the pain of this world, and act so that others become a little better for having known you. Live so that, through you, our ancient covenant with God is renewed in the only way that matters: in life. Moses’ last testament to us at the very end of his days, when his mind might so easily have turned to death, was: choose life.”
“As part of the logic of human sociality, the internal cohesion of a group is in direct proportion to the degree of threat it perceives from the outside. It follows that anyone who wants to unite a nation, especially one that has been deeply fractured, must demonise an adversary or, if necessary, invent an enemy. For the Turks it was the Armenians. For the Serbs it was the Muslims. For Stalin it was the bourgeoisie or the counter-revolutionaries. For Pol Pot it was the capitalists and intellectuals. For Hitler it was Christian Europe’s eternal Other, the Jews.”
“the Internet has a disinhibition effect: you can be ruder to someone electronically than you would be in a face-to-face encounter, since the exchange has been depersonalised. Read any Comments section on the Web, and you will see what this means: the replacement of reason by anger, and argument by vilification. Civility is dying, and when it dies, civilisation itself is in danger.”
STORY TELLING
In 2015 & 2016, Jackie Pullinger invited me to speak twice in Hong Kong – once at a large rally and the other in her church housed in a warehouse. On each occasion, she would look me in the eye and with a smile asked, “Are you preaching in Hebrew or in Greek?”
It sounded like a crazy question as the majority of hearers were Cantonese speaking. But she had a point. Knowing that I have been educated in the West and speaking mainly to “Western-oriented” audiences, my approach would be Greek. I might spout learned propositional truths. That would lose me my audience. My reply was “Mainly Hebrew with a little Greek.” Audiences in Africa, Asia and Latin America respond better to stories. Stories abound in the narratives of the Old Testament and the Gospels
My first reaction (which I kept to myself) was “What! Have you forgotten those great theological truths I expounded in your student Fellowship?”
After many years of preaching, I rejoice when folks refer to me as a “story teller”.
That tells me that truth is getting into their hearts.
I have therefore included quotes from Tell to Win by Peter Guber, former CEO of Sony and Columbia films. For him and for us, stories forge a cutting age in the message we seek to broadcast.
« Stories are the common currency of humanity
« Story telling is the most powerful way to put ideas into the world today.
« In a time of information overload, people do not need more information. They want a story they can relate to.
« We (story tellers) restore order with imagination. We instil hope again and again.
Tell me the facts, and I’ll learn. Tell me the truth and I’ll believe. But tell me a story and it will live in my heart forever.”
Think about the great leaders.
Think about Nelson Mandela.
Think about all the people we know are very successful in business, religion, politics.
What are they?
They tell powerful stories. They move people to action by aiming at their heart.
When Nelson Mandela met with leading business men and decision makers in California to invite them to invest in the new South Africa, he did not quote statistics or gave economic prognosis, he told a story and that moved these powerful Americans to support him.
Here’s his story :
“In my 27th year in jail, a guard I had come to know well whispered to me that I was soon to be released.” Mandela said he could see the jailer was excited for him. The man considered that was a moment for jubilation, but Mandela himself had a different reaction. “I was sad for the man I had frequently talked. He didn’t understand that my spirit and beliefs had never been locked in this prison. My body could be contained but the stories of my dream could, He did not understand that the only prison that takes away a man’s freedom is one that does not allow a man to dream.”
Chua Wee Hian's Thoughts for 2017
Dear Friends,
Happy New Year!
Many years ago. I was impacted by reading the "confession" of President Eisenhower. Looking back at his two four year terms of presidency, he mentioned that he had two trays in his Oval office. One was marked URGENT and the other IMPORTANT. He rued and lamented that he spent over 90% of his time attending to the Urgent and a minute amount of time and energy to the truly important.
Last June I picked up The 5 Choices - the Path that lead to Extraordinary Productivity. Based on the writings of Stephen and Franklin Covey with their invaluable Time Matrix, this book will stir us to focus on priorities and actions that ultimately will make a big difference in serving the Lord and ministering to people that He has entrusted to us. I am re-producing their Four Quadrants for you to explore and implement. This fits in well with our entering into a New Year as we seek to heed the Apostle Paul's call to live wisely making the most of every opportunity (Eph.5:16,16) Older readers are more familiar with the KJV phrase "redeeming your time".
I've included a few quotes on Money since I shall be preaching on this topic at the end of the month. The quote on the Crusader's sword at baptism sent shivers in my spine!
Every blessing!
Chua Wee Hian
The FOUR QUADRANTS: Read, Mark. Learn and Fervently Apply!
Further Exploration:
THE 5 CHOICES THE PATH TO EXTRAORDINARY PRODUCTIVITY .
Kory Kogon, Adam Merrill & Leena Rinne (Simon Schuster)
Websites : The Time Matrix - Stephen Covey or Franklin Covey.
TIME: Certainly wise people know that time is a precious commodity. All of us have the same amount of time at our disposal, with sixty minutes to every hour, and twenty four hours in every day. None of us can stretch time. But wise people use it to the fullest advantage. They know that time is passing…. So they seize each fleeting opportunity whilst it is still there. For once it has passed, even the wisest person cannot recover it. Somebody once advertised as follows “LOST yesterday, somewhere between sunrise and sunset, two golden hours, each set with sixty diamond minutes. No reward offered for they are gone forever.”
BEWARE: SUGAR!
“In 2012 about 56 million people died throughout the world; 620,000 of them died due to human violence (war killed 120,000 people, and crime killed another 500,000). In contrast, 800,000 committed suicide, and 1.5 million died of diabetes.23 Sugar is now more dangerous than gunpowder.”
HOMO CONSUMER?
Man is in the process of becoming homo consumer, a total consumer. He has a new religious vision in which heaven is just a big warehouse where everyone buy something new every day, indeed, whenever he can buy anything he wants and even a little more than his neighbour.
NOT MY MONEY!
When the Crusades were being fought, the crusaders employed mercenaries to fight on their behalf. Because it was a religious war, the crusaders insisted that the mercenaries be baptised before fighting. As they were being baptised, the mercenaries would hold their swords out of the water to symbolise the one thing in their life that Jesus had no control. They had the freedom to use their swords in any way that they wished. Today many people handle their money in a similar fashion, though they may not be as obvious about it. They hold their wallet or purse “out of the water,” in effect saying, “God, you can be Lord of my entire life except in my money. I am perfectly capable of handling myself.”
We have so much debt in our nation that the average person has been described as someone driving on a debt-financed road, in a bank-financed car, powered by credit-card financed fuel, going to purchase furniture on an installment plan to put in his mortgage-financed home.
TRY THIS EXPERIMENT
Hold the most valuable currency note in your non-dominant hand. Gaze at it and ask:
What is the purpose of money? What is the point of money for you?
How important is money? What influence does money have on your values/work/lifestyle/decision-making?
What is more important than money? Is money No.1 in your life?
Money will buy:
A bed but not sleep;
Books but not brains;
Food but not an appetite;
A house but not a home;
Medicine but not health;
Amusement but not happiness;
A gold cross but not a Saviour.
£££
Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t really need, to impress people they don’t like.
£££
No one would have remembered the Good Samaritan if he’d only had good intentions. He had money as well.
£££
Try not to become a man of success, but rather, a man of value.
QI (QUITE INTERESTING) – a BBC talk show where panelists submit interesting facts.
One in ten Europeans was conceived on an IKEA bed.
In 14thCentury England, babies were baptised in cider.
In Kygyzstan, 75% brides are kidnapped by their husbands.
Mouse potato – someone who spends a lot of time at a computer
In 2001 edition of the World Christian Encyclopedia, the compilers counted
33,830 different Christian denominations.
Human beings and elephants are the only creatures with chins.
Bees know when it’s going to rain, so they put in extra work the day before.
Orangutans warn off predators by making kissing noises.
4,000 MacDonald hamburgers are eaten every minute.
Each cow produces meat for those 4,000.
Chua Wee Hian has just produced a DVD set of 4 discs "Leaving a Lasting Legacy" based on his rich experiences of being a husband, father, grandfather, bible expositor, author, pastor, mentor, etc. He shares how we can instil character traits, talents, skills and faith in the next generation even while we live. Please see details of "Leaving a Lasting Legacy" in this issue.
Nov 2016: Quotes Quoted!
PEARLS of GREAT VALUE
The more deeply you walk with Christ, the hungrier you get for Christ. The more homesick you get for heaven, the more you want all the fullness of Go and the more you want to be done with sin. The more you want the Bridegroom to come again, the more you want to church revived and purified again.
The greatest enemy of hunger for God is not poison but the apple pie. It is not the banquet of the wicked that dulls our appetites for heaven, but endless nibblings at the table of the world. It is not the X-rated DVD but the prime time dribble of triviality we drink in every nigh…
For When These Replace Our Appetite For God Himself, The Idolatry Is Scarcely Recognizable And Almost Incurable.
Pride blows us up like balloons, but grace punctures our conceit and lets the hot, proud air out of the system.
The life of true holiness is rooted in the soil of awed adoration. It does not grow elsewhere.
Worship does not satisfy our hunger for God.
It Whets Our Appetites.
Imperfection is the prerequisite for grace.
Light Only Gets In Through The Cracks.
The power of the church is not a parable of flawless people, but of a flawless Christ who embraces our flaws.
The Church Is Not Made Up Of Whole People, Rather Of Broken People Who Find Wholeness In A Christ Who Was Broken For Us.
Sociologists have a theory of the looking glass self; you become what the most important person in your life (wife, father, boss etc) thinks you are.
How Would My Life Change If I Truly Believed the Bible’s Astounding Words about God’s Love for Me, If I Looked in the Mirror and Saw What God Sees?
You are free to choose
But You Are Not Free from the Consequences of Your Choice.
QUOTABLE QUOTES
Your mind is like a garden; your thoughts are the seeds.
The Harvest Can Either Be Flowers Or Weeds.
Fill Your Paper With The Breathings Of Your Heart.
Sometimes, When You Are In A Dark Place, You Think You Are Buried
When You Are Planted.
Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow is the future but today is a gift.
That’s Why It Is Called the Present.
It doesn’t matter if a cat is black or white.
As Long As It Catches Mice.
REFLECTION
THREE MILE AN HOUR GOD
There is a great value in efficiency and speed. But let me make one observation. I find that God goes ‘slowly’ in his educational process of man. ‘Forty years in the wilderness’ points to his basic educational philosophy. Forty years of natural migration through the wilderness, three generations of the united monarchy (Saul, David, Solomon), nineteen kings of Israel (up to 722 BC) and twenty kings of Judah (up to 587 BC), the hosts of the prophets and priests, the experience of exile and restoration – isn’t this rather a slow and costly way for God to let his people know the covenant relationship between God and man?
God walks ‘slowly’ because he is love. If he is not love he would have gone much faster. Love has its speed. It is an inner speed. It is a spiritual speed. It is a different kind of speed from the technological speed to which we are accustomed. It is ‘slow’ yet it is lord over all other speeds since it is the speed of love. It goes on in the depth of our life, whether we notice or not, whether we are currently hit by storm or not, at three miles an hour. It is the speed we walk and therefore it is the speed the love of God walks.
(In 1970/1, I had interesting theological conversations with Dr Koyama. He was then lecturing at Trinity Theological College, Singapore)
HEAD'S UP
By Working Faithfully For Eight Hours A Day, You May Eventually Become The Boss And Work 12 Hours A Day
When The People Of God Have Their Hearts Quickened, And Roused To Pray, Prayer Can Open Heaven, Open Prisons And Strike Off Fetters.
September's 2016 Quotes.
Uncomfortable words
Is your conversion relational or impersonal?
I was reading a rather penetrating and personal interview between Father Richard Rohr (well known Franciscan monk and author) and Jonathan Langley in the April 2016 issue Premier CHRISTIANITY. I was deeply shaken by Rohr’s candid analysis and comments.
The process of conversion is very much like a process of unlearning. Jesus was always unlearning his Jewish compatriots from their bad Judaism. A lot of people aren’t ready for the real thing. They prefer the low level religion – I call it ‘transactional religion’, where it’s a sort of vending machine: ‘You do this, God does this…’ It’s not really relational. A good Trinitarian theology, good Christology makes the world relational. That’s why I like it.
It’s so surprising. The very people who can shout so loudly about ‘a personal relationship with Jesus Christ’ are often so impersonal. The right language is so often the best disguise for wrong identity. You just use the right language and you can remain in your very isolated, self-centred person and think that you are like Jesus because you use the Jesus words….. You watch this movie where an evangelical preacher is preaching about a personal relationship with Jesus, and then, he yells at you afterwards. He doesn’t even make eye contact with you. It’s all just a business. It’s thinking that just executing the right verbal transaction puts me ‘in the club’. Well it doesn’t, I’m afraid. If you were really living in relationship with Jesus, you would become like Jesus.
Mere Religion?
Too much of our Worship is Ritual without Reality, Form without Power, Fun without Fear, Religion without GOD
‘These people honour me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me’ Isa.29:13; Mk.7:6) and this indictment by Old Testament prophets and Jesus is uncomfortably applicable to us and to our churches today. Too much of our worship is ritual without reality, form without power, fun without fear, religion without God. John Stott
In the history of mankind, although this is a shameful thing to confess, religion and morality have been more often divorced than married. John Stott
Mystical experience without moral commitment is false faith. John Stott
We gather as God’s people to worship Him. Worship can become the show. It may just be the celebration of a few gifted people whilst others watch. This is a form of religious consumerism. Dave Browning
Raising Children in a Digital Age
Changes in family life
A significant change is in family life: we have fewer marriages and more divorce, separation, and cohabitation. More children are born outside marriage, they stay at home longer, and we get married and have children later in life. Vodafone’s recent research highlights how family life is both more privatized (as parents focus on their children rather than a wider society) and yet also open to much wider influences through the constant presence of technology.
In the past, society tended to see children as inherently naughty, requiring discipline, whereas now they are perceived as inherently good, with an innocence that can be corrupted and requires protection….. the market has developed a new classification for children: the teenager” in the 1950s, and more recently, the “tweenager”, “middle youth”, “kidult” and “adultescent”, changing the way we perceive children and their needs.
Children are increasingly given access to a global world through mass media, they are increasingly being controlled, regulated and surveyed. Despite, valuing their spontaneity and imagination, , as parents we increasingly control and organise their lives, and feel pressured to give them a “good” childhood with opportunities for success as an adult while protecting them from physical and social risks. Some children, however, will return to empty homes where computers and mobile devices offer a range of communities for them to participate in while family members are absent.
A survey of 25 EU countries found by the London School of Economics in 2011, found that children were most afraid of cyber bullying and insults online, visual pornography, meeting with strangers and seeing something violent.
Raising Children in A Digital Age Bex Lewis pp25, 26
Choices to increase your productivity
1. Act on the Important. Don’t React to the Urgent.
2. Go for the extraordinary. Don’t Settle for the Ordinary.
3. Schedule the Big Rocks. Don’t sort Gravel.
4. Rule your Technology. Don’t let it Rule You.
5. Fuel Your Fire. Don’t Burn Out.
The 5 Choices – Kory Kogon, Adam Merrill & Lena Rinne
Brief Quotes to Treasure
• Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.
• Losers live in the past. Winners learn from their past and enjoying working in the present towards the future. Denis Waitley
• We are products of our past but we don’t have to be its prisoners.
• Eternity to the godly is a day that has no sunset, Eternity to the wicked is a night that has no sunrise. Thomas Watson Puritan writer
• Aim at heaven, you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you will get neither. C S Lewis
Quotes for June #18
Did You Know?
When the Moors invaded and conquered Spain, the crowds used to shout “Allah! Allah! Allah!” to express their admiration for exceptionally talented dancers. Later when the Moors were driven out by the Christians, they changed their chants to “Ole! Ole! Ole!”
Indonesia classifies itself as a Muslim nation. Yet the following Christian festivals – Good Friday, Easter Sunday and Monday, Ascension Day are designated public holidays.
TED – Ideas worth spreading.
My grandson Ben, introduced me to TED in mid-February and since then I have been googling this fascinating channel weekly. Each talk average 18 minutes and gets millions of hits. Why not spend 36 to 40 minutes a week listening to a vast array of contemporary topics and themes. I made notes on an excellent talk Connected but Alone by Sherry Turkle.
In 1996, she wrote a bestseller Sex, Lies and Avatars in which she propounded that the world of virtual reality will help us to lives better lives. 16 years later, she vehemently disagreed. She warned,
We have let technology lead us to places we don’t want to go….our lives are plugged into little devices that powerfully change us to who we are than what we do.
When we text, there is no eye contact with people; we do not give full attention to others around us.
We may think we are connected by the Net but in reality we are customising or lives. We are only interested only in the bits of a meeting or conversation that interest us. We keep people at a distance and all the time we want to take full control of what we are going to say. Conversation takes place in real time and we can’t control what we are going to say. In digital communication, we can edit, delete and re-touch airbrushing our faces and bodies. Human relations, however, are rich and messy. We try to clean them up by technology.
“Tweets and texts cannot teach us to know each other; we compromise reality of self-reflection. We rather text than talk.”
Many believe that no one listens to us except through Face Book entries and Twitter tweets. We spend time with machines and transform them into sociable robots. Today lonely elderly have robots that would listen to their complaints. A widow would communicate to the “robot baby seal” in her lap top and pour out her grief to it. The robot simply puts on a show as it knows nothing about life, death or grief. Technology appeals to us when we are most vulnerable. So we turn to technology to feel more comfortable. Turkle concludes that we should not allow wire connections to shape us and our values. We should return to “I share, therefore I am.” She strongly advocates solitude because when we are alone we can reflect; we don’t have to hanker after constant connections.
RESPONDING to DISSATISFACTION & FAILURE
Matthew Syed, a distinguished English journalist and former Olympic Table tennis player offered rich insights in an article published recently by the Daily Mail.
Dissatisfaction and failure, far from being a psychological distortion is the fruit that leads to change and renewal.
ATM was a response to the problem of getting hold of cash outside opening hours. It was invented by a South African businessman who was lying in his bath one night worrying because he had forgotten going to his bank that day.
The collapsible buggy was a response to the impracticality of unwieldy prams. Owen Maclaren saw his daughter struggling with a pram while out with his grand-daughter.
Masking tape was a response to the failure of existing adhesive tape which would rip paint off when it was removed from cars and walls.
BODY FACTS
During your life-time you will produce enough saliva to fill two swimming pools. Saliva is very important. If your saliva cannot dissolve something, you cannot taste it.
The strongest muscle in your body is your tongue and the hardest bone is the jawbone.
It is estimated that the human body has 60,000 miles of blood vessels.
Your feet have 52 bones accounting for one quarter of all the bones in your body.
It takes 17 muscles to smile and 43 muscles to frown.
Quotes for April #15
BUSY
It’s difficult to ask anybody, “How are you?” without hearing the word busy” somewhere in their response. We feel overwhelmed by busyness because of the demands of our time: our inbox, our to-do list are bulging, a huge amount of people expect things from us and our organisations are trying to do more with fewer people.
THE JOY OF FULL ATTENTION
Real joy requires full, undiluted attention, and that’s something we’re not in the habit of doing: we don’t practise being totally present. When we “have a moment” we fill it with the help of our smart phone. We top up experiences with more stimulation; we multitask for pleasure as well as for productivity. We surf the Internet or look it Facebook while speaking on the phone. We tweet while watching TV. We email while playing with the kids. In losing our ability to go deep into the moment, our moments are no longer enough for us in themselves without artificial additives. Unless we regain the ability to notice, to savour, we will be sucked evermore into unrewarding and unsustainable busyness.
Stop for a moment and recall your best moments over the last few weeks. Without exception these will be the times when you shone the flashlight of your attention fully on to something, when you dived into the moment and were fully present. Improving your happiness and your well-being doesn’t have to be complicated, but it does require us o recognise that attention-splicing undermines our focus, weakens our ability to fully experience joy, and squanders our three seconds.
A life of high octane busyness can diminish our ability to stop , to feel and to do. Through busyness we vacate our three seconds, leaving behind only the husks of split, stretched and partial attention.
THIS BUSINESS OF “FIXING” PEOPLE
There are some who believe that people can be fixed. Such people believe there must be a formula. A cure. Some instant solution that will remedy their problem, either with themselves or someone else. Well, in case you hadn’t noticed, people are not machines. A car or a computer may need a faulty part replacing before it’s functioning again, but people are a little more complex. And as soon as you start to “fix” people or “fix” yourself you’re in trouble.
The problem is we’re so used to getting “things” fixed we start believe that we can do so with people. The reality is very different.
Helplines and instruction manuals can help us sort our problems with our phones or assembling flat-pack furniture. But there are no instruction manuals when it comes to dealing with people. Religions may lay out guidelines and principles to live by, but not step by step instructions. If there were such a manual, it would have to be a very thick one.
HEAR! HEAR!
Past experiences often act like chains on the present and future. Early impressions become lasting impressions. Habits work themselves into ruts. A mental attitude that “It can’t be done” becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy
Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment. If the weather is good, they feel good. If it isn’t, it affects their attitude and their performance. Proactive people carry their own weather with them. Whether it rains or shines, it makes no difference to them.
Nothing destroys trust faster than making a promise than making and breaking a promise. Conversely, nothing builds trust more than keeping a promise.
Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic.
Management works in the system; leadership works on the system.
Some leaders are into “mushroom management”: “Keep people in the dark, pile lots of manure on them, and when they are fully ripe, cut off their heads and can them”.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They’re either speaking or preparing themselves to speak. They’re filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people’s lives.
You can be a transition person – a change for the better between the past and the future. A negative tendency that’s run through your family for generations can stop with you. And your own change can affect many lives downstream.
LAW OF IMPARTATION: The greatest influence on our children will be who we really are.
IN GENERAL CHILDREN WILL:
Imitate who we are not who we say we are.
Follow what we do, not what we talk about doing.
Rebel against all sham and hypocrisy
Be actively seeking role models.
ORIGINS
Chairman In the late 18th century, only one chair is on display in the large hall. The head of the household sat on this seat whilst all the others sat on the floor. A large folded board would be pulled out of the wall and everyone remain seated to dine. When a very important guest was around, he was given the chair. Hence the most important man, the one in control was given the title of Chairman.
Gossip Politicians operating before 20th century who required feedback, sent their assistants to the pubs. They were ordered to “go, sip ale” in order to listen to the complaints and concerns of the common people. Their bosses dispatched them to go and sip here and there. Go sip became gossip.
Cost an arm and a leg President George Washington was often painted standing, with one arm behind his back and both legs covered by his desk. Artists charged by how many limbs were to be painted. Painting arms and legs would cost the subject “an arm and a leg.”
QUOTATIONS - Busy, busy, busy
"Appreciation" is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.
"Smiling" is good for you. It reduces stress, blood pressure and releases endorphins… a single smile stimulates the brain as much as two thousand chocolate bars, or as much as receiving over twenty thousand dollars. People think you are more competent and remember you better when you smile. You may even live longer if you smile. Only a third of adults smile twenty time a day (twenty times less than children)
"Too Much" has come to stay and will worsen each year. Year after year you will receive more electronic communication, be exposed to more information and be expected to be on the top of more things. You will receive even more email. None of us is going to turn the technological clock back thirty years and our organizations are unlikely to say, “Relax! Don’t do as much work!”
The first face sees “busy as an experience”: multitasking, racing and cramming that leave us feeling overloaded and overwhelmed. The second face is “busy as a success strategy”: we think by being busier and getting more done we will succeed in our career. The third face is “busy as an approach to happiness”: we become busy in an attempt to become happier in our lives
Busy as an experience |
We feel harried and overwhelmed for much of our waking moments. So what strategy do we employ to address this? For most of us, it is time management. We believe that if we could manage our time more effectively, we’d be more in control of our lives and more effective. However, in a world of infinite demand, the more we manage our time, the more we can cram into our days. The focus on managing our time has three effects. We get more efficient and so we do more things, and so we get busier. Our attention narrows and so we lose the perspective needed to make good choices and as we get better at juggling more, our attention gets scattered and diffuse, meaning we don’t appreciate anything. If we want to achieve calmer, more effective and happier lives, time management is not the answer. |
Busy as a Success Strategy |
For the whole of human history we've been living in a world of scarcity. When there is too little, we strive for more. Whether food, stuff or information, we try to get as much as we can. The basic principle of agriculture, manufacturing and even office life has been the more the better. So we play the “More” game. We assume that personal productivity is what will deliver success. However, in a world of too much, the last thing we need is more of anything. When everyone is so overwhelmed, the biggest scarcity is attention. In order to succeed, you have to cut through the noise and be noticed. In focusing on doing more things and being more productive the big stuff – which requires thinking and creativity – gets squeezed out. We have become drudges, too busy to lift our heads and to do the things that will make an impact and differentiate us. We don’t need to be more productive, we need to do less, better. |
Busy as an Approach to Happiness |
We lead our lives with conventional assumptions: that more money, more status, and more popularity are good things. So we prioritize accordingly, putting our values, our relationships and our health on hold while we strive to make our lives better through acquisition. But this is really a dumb idea. First, research has shown that achieving these goals will have little impact on our well-being. Second, the things we sacrifice – relationships, meaning and health – are the only things that can make us truly happy. Third, people who focus on external values – money, stuff and status – are less happy, less healthy than people who focus on the things that busyness kills: relationships, personal growth or contributions to your community. ibid pp xxi, xxii |
The Church is meant to be a community of empowerment, where wounds can be healed and souls are free to flourish.
We don’t turn up to Church, because we are scrubbed-up, perfect beings; we are a gathering of broken people seeking to become whole – but seeking wholeness together rather than alone. We are a mishmash of believers, doubters, dissenters and malcontents, each of us grappling our way towards the mystery that is God.
The church is a place of refuge and hope, a place of prayer and laughter, a place of dreams and fresh imagining, a place of birth and re-birth, a place of welcome and acceptance, a place of weddings and funerals, a place where proud mums and dads bring their tiny people to offer them to God, a place of parties, a place of bread and wine shared by all, a place of affirmation and new beginnings, a place of friendship, support and healing.
Dave Tomlinson How to be a bad Christian…and a better human being pp.170,171
Creating new pathways in the mind is bit like making a new path in some woods: you keep walking that way, as if there were a path, and before long a new path appears. Developing spiritual or contemplative practices helps. I like the word ‘practices’. It reminds me that life’s greatest skills require constant rehearsals. We make mistakes. We screw up. We forget or get distracted. Then we start again. We become good at what we practise. Ibid p.94
New Year, new opportunities, new resolutions……. 2016
You can never be too old to set another goal, to dream a new dream.
Put first things first and we get second things thrown in; put second things first and we lose both first and second things.
Every new beginning comes from other beginning’s end.
The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour whatever he does and whoever he is. For last year’s words belong to last year’s language. And next year’s word await another voice And to make an end is to make a beginning.
Resolution One: I will live for God
Resolution Two: If no one does, I still will.
What does it mean to be Spiritual?
Quotes Collected by Chua Wee Hian: Read, review, reflect and release
What does it mean to be Spiritual?
Made for spirituality, we wallow in introspection. Made for joy, we settle for pleasure. Made for justice, we clamour for vengeance. Made for relationship, we insist on our own way. Made for beauty, we are satisfied with sentiment. But new creation has already begun. The sun has begun to rise.
Christians are called to leave behind, in the tomb of Jesus Christ, all that belongs to the brokenness and incompleteness of the present world ... That, quite simply, is what it means to be Christian: to follow Jesus Christ into the new world, God's new world, which he has thrown open before us.
“Those in whom the Spirit comes to live are God's new Temple. They are, individually and corporately, places where heaven and earth meet.” N.T. Wright, Simply Christian: Why Christianity Makes Sense
The other side of religion
"Religion can make people mean, angry, gloomy, critical, judgemental and neurotic. Religion can also become an abuser of Christians.
I have seen so many people hurt by religion that sometimes I think it would be better to be a pagan. Worst of all, religion can keep you from God. It can become the substitute ~ and not a very good one ~ for a relationship with God Himself.
Something about institutional Christianity (as necessary as it is) will kill your freedom if you aren't careful.
Whenever a new Christian comes into the church I wince a bit, because I'm afraid that they will get the 'religion disease', that the 'church virus' will kill off the joy and freedom Jesus purchased on the cross to give them." Steve Brown
Listen
Quotes: read, review, reflect and release
Alfred Brendel
Fred Tyger
Carl Rogers
Henri Nouwen
Turkish Proverb
Learning to listen
One of the most important habits of a creative thinker is to be a good listener.
Stand guard at the ear-gateway to your mind, heart, and spirit.
• Listen to the good.
Tune your ears to love, hope and courage. Tune out gossip and resentment.
• Listen to the beautiful.
Listen to the music of the masters.
Listen to the symphony of nature--the hum of the wind in the treetops, bird songs, thundering surf. . .
• Listen critically.
Mentally challenge assertions, ideas, and philosophies. Seek the truth with an open mind.
• Listen with patience.
Do not hurry the other person. Show them the courtesy of listening to what they have to say, no matter how much you may disagree. You may learn something.
• Listen with your heart.
Practice empathy. Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
• Listen for growth.
Be an inquisitive listener. Ask questions. Everyone has something to say which will help you to grow.
• Listen creatively.
Listen for ideas or the germs of ideas.
Listen for hints or clues that may spark creative projects.
• Listen to yourself.
Listen to your deepest yearnings, your highest aspirations, your noblest impulses.
Listen to the better person within you.
• Listen with depth.
Be still and listen.
Listen with the ear of intuition to the inspiration of the Infinite."
by Wilfred Petersen
What I don’t want when I ask you to listen...
• When I ask you to listen, and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I have asked.
• When I ask you to listen and you start telling me why I shouldn't feel the way I do, you are invalidating my feelings.
• When I ask you to listen and you start trying to solve my problems, I feel underestimated and disempowered.
• When I ask you to listen and you start telling me what I need to do, I feel offended, pressured and controlled.
• When I ask you to listen, it does not mean I am helpless. I may be faltering, depressed or discouraged, but I am not helpless.
• When I ask you to listen and you do things that I can and need to do for myself, you hurt my self-esteem.
But when you accept the way I feel, then I don't need to spend time and energy trying to defend myself or convince you, and I can focus on figuring out why I feel the way I feel and what to do about it. And when I do that, I don't need advice, just support, trust and encouragement.
Please remember that what you think are irrational feelings always makes sense if you take the time to listen and understand me.
Right Listening,[7]ISBN 0976889838, 9780976889830 by Mark Brady
Quotes on Failure and Success
“Contributed by Chua Wee Hian”
Quotes:
read | review | reflect | release
Quotes on PRAYER
All you need to do to learn to pray is to pray.
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Aging, Experience & Being Coached.
AGE is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
I am young at heart and slightly older in other places.
Experience is not what happens to a man. It is what a man does and what happens to him.
Have you watched the world’s top tennis players fighting it out on the courts?
Did you observe the small group of trainers watching intensely identifying with every stroke of their star players?
Each individual has four to five coaches and they don't come cheap; they travel the same circuit and are housed in five star hotels and receive high fees.
Why doesn't Novak Djokovich, Roger Federer, Andrew Murray or Serena Williams just have one coach/agent each?
That would save expenses.
We Christian leaders especially senior pastors or heads of Christian agencies, think of ourselves as super coaches equipping and training our leaders and members.
Do we have more than one person coaching us?
I could have done with an admin coach, a relationship mentor.
We may not be able to afford professional trainers but we could ask God to lead us to godly and capable ones who are prepared to invest their time, energy and skills in us.
Think, pray and take action.
Loving Mirrors
Noah St. John in his bestselling book:
The Secret Code of Success[8]http://www.amazon.com/The-Secret-Code-Success-Happiness/dp/0061715743
observes that it is not possible for one person to become a great and successful leader all by himself.
He quotes J. Krishnamurti
(p.75) He goes on to add,
p.86.
Loving mirrors are people who unreservedly commit themselves to support us so that we can become both faithful and successful leaders.
» 2. What support do I need most in my life right now? In my business or ministry?
» 3. Who would I like to give me that support?
» 4. What’s in for them to support me? (List benefits per individual)
» 5. What would I like to hear from key people in my life?
» 6. If there were just one thing I would ask of them, what would it be?
» 7. What ACTIONS am I willing to take to get the support I need?
Approaching your Loving Mirrors or those who profit from being mentored. Tell them of important they are and how much you value their input in your life and work.
1. What do you get out of me being in your life?
2. What have you gained from our relationship? Please be specific.
3. What would be missing if I weren't in your life?
4. What do you see as my strengths?
5. What can I do differently to improve our relationship?
6. If there were one word or phrase you'd use to describe our relationship, what should it be?
7. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate our relationship?
Noah St John p. 99
Jack Canfield popular co-author of Chicken Soup for My Soul series.
Jack Canfield (born August 19, 1944 is an American author and motivational speaker. He is the co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, which has more than 250 titles and 500 million copies in print in over 40 languages. In 2005 Canfield co-authored The Success Principles.[9]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Canfield
What Really Matters
George Bernard Shaw’s Pygmalion was brilliantly morphed into the West End and Broadway Play My Fair Lady.
Every time I read the heroine’s poignant musing, I am deeply stirred.
(Act 5 Line 143) Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw
Maya Angelou[10]https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Maya_Angelou [4 April 1928 – 28 May 2014], born Marguerite Ann Johnson, was an African-American poet, memoirist, actress, director, and civil rights activist.
Vulnerability
When we were children we used to think that when we were grown up, we would no longer be vulnerable.
Snakes Alive!
On 15 July 2015, photos were posted on social media[11]https://www.facebook.com/pages/End-Times-Disciples-Ministries/351175848381100 showing ‘Prophet’ Penuel Mngun[12] Prophet Penuel Mnguni, the leader of the End Times Disciples Ministries in Pretoria, South Africa dropping live snakes into the mouths of his congregants.
He boldly declared, ”Those with small faith eat only vegetables but those with great faith eat almost everything.” During the service this self- proclaimed man of God commanded a snake to change into a chocolate and it obeyed. People ate and enjoyed it!
According to the Nigerian website Naira Brains the ‘Prophet’ Mngun meets in Soshangune, Pretoria, S.Africa and he was arrested and appeared in court on 19 July charged with animal cruelty. [13]http://www.christiantoday.com/article/pastor.who.fed.his.congregation.live.snakes.to.face.court/59546.htm AND … Continue reading Mngun defended his action.
The World Is Flat
Globalization
Thomas L. Friedman, The Lexus and the Olive Tree
Globalization is not a trend or a fad. It is the international systems that replaced the Cold War system. It has its own rules, logic, pressures, and incentives that will, and do, affect everyone's country, and everyone's company, and everyone's community, either directly or indirectly.
That's what globalization is.
A vision is a story in three parts:
This is where we are.
This is where we are going.
This is how we are going to get there.
Leaders enable the Team/Company/Church to achieve the vision.
Coach
The word “coach” is derived from the Hungarian kochsi a type of large wagon to transport passengers. The metaphorical extension of this word in English is a person who transports people from the state of ignorance to one of knowledge.
The use of the word to mean “trainer” or teacher surfaced around 1830 at Oxford University to signify a tutor who “carried” a student through an exam.
The legendary basketball coach John Wooden once said,
Over the years, many leaders have told me that receiving very direct and honest feedback has been a crucial part of their transformation……
Fathers as coach and mentors - for Father’s Day
. This was a lamentation of a missing father in his life.
Well said and worth pondering
The Weaker Sex
I highly recommend you read the essay Man Adrift in the current issue of this magazine as it will affect the way we minister to men and families. A sample quote: “Plastic women” adapt deftly to economic and social change, and “cardboard men who fail to adapt are left crumpled.
Losing a job can affect a man’s libido. If they have always been strong and suddenly feel helpless, that can cause sexual problem. Some men feel emasculated if their partner out-earns them.
Death
- Steve Jobs
The Leader Facing Change
In the (sc.African) bush, Chief Shillingi talked about his life. It was a bloodbath all the way through: attacking other tribes, getting attacked by elephants and terrorising the wildlife. Four years of drought had killed most of the wildlife and his tribe faced starvation. So they decided the only way to survive was to move from killing animals to farming tourists: they had to look after the wild animals so that the tourists can shoot them, with their cameras. As changes in corporate strategy go, that is about as radical as they come.
Most organisations fail because they cannot change fast enough… The larger and more successful a company becomes, the harder it is to change. Successful firms become prisoners of their own success: they develop a business model that works, and if they are sensible, they will keep on refining and improving it.
As with firms, so with leaders. The more successful a leader becomes, the more set in their ways they become….These leaders succeed as long as the world does not change too much. If the word changes, they suddenly look very exposed. These leaders are easy: they are focussed on one way of working. Their leadership style has changed very little as their taste in films or music: they will hark back to the good old days. If you go down this route, be sure to find the context that fits your style and hope it will last until your retire.
The Romans governed their Empire successfully because they had something more powerful than communications, technology and sophisticated accounting packages. They had trust. The main players in the Empire grew up together and were educated together. They had common values and a common outlook. The same formula has been true of all old empires from the Ottomans to the British. They were ruled by a narrow elite which were able to trust each other… The world of hyper-information has become the world of hyper- control. We now know more about each individual and each operation than the greatest dictators and control freaks of the past could ever have dreamed about. What we gain in control. We lose in terms of individual initiative, trust and accountability…..
A Prophetic Perspective:
National Nervous Breakdown?
In a single lifetime we have seen the introduction of computers, the Internet, iPads, mobile phones…..CDs, DVDs, Play stations, jet engines, nuclear weapons, heart transplants, ATMs and literally thousands of other devices that we have taken for granted. Some have greatly benefited humanity, others have not. But most unsettling of all the changes that have affected our lives are the changes in our culture and values. Family breakdown has been the most devastating change doing untold harm to the lives of millions of children, adolescents and young adults. Pornography is probably the second most pernicious change and third is immigration with its unsettling effect upon the culture of the nation.
Just as the human body cannot absorb too many massive changes in a short period of time, so a nation cannot absorb too many great changes in a single generation without serious disturbances to the national psyche. This is what is happening in Britain where the impact of massive change has affected the foundations of the nation, our values and beliefs.
There are many indications today that the social chaos and catastrophe will hit us in the near future. The outlook for 2015 is bleak.
Is there anything that can be done? Certainly! The most effective cure for our social ills would be the restoration of our belief system. This means recovering our faith in God. We are an orphan generation. We long for the security that only a trust in God can provide, that can give us hope for the future.
God is looking for a prophetic people who can declare his word for our times. It can be done in a single generation. But has the present remnant Christian minority got the motivation and the vision to save the nation?
Dr.Clifford Hill MA BD PhD , Winter 2014, Issachar Ministries UK.
Porn, and the way it is shaping our individual and collective cultural mindset, has moved on dramatically.
Sexually explicit material is no longer on the fringes of our culture; it’s in the mainstream……..
When poorly written Fifty Shades of Grey was distributed as a paperback in 2012, pre-existing shame barriers simply disappeared.
People were happy to discuss how much they enjoyed the sexually explicit book.
They were proud to sit and read a copy on the train.
Without any announcement the boundaries of acceptability had shifted.
(Martin Saunders, Porn Identity, article in Premier Christianity magazine February 2015)
Some surveys have shown that 65% Christian men and 15% Christian women visit on line porn sites regularly.
How could we respond with self-awareness, intelligence and compassion.
Highly recommended
Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain (IVP) by Dr William Struthers. He is a neuroscientist and theologian.
MAN
MAN “made in the image of God” and a “fallen sinner”
What a chimera then is man! What a novelty! What a monster, what a chaos, what a contradiction, what a prodigy! Judge of all things, imbecile worm of the earth; depository of truth, a sink of uncertainty and error; the pride and the refuse of the universe. Pascal Pensees No.434
Man was born free and everywhere he is in chains. Rousseau Du Contrat Social ch.1
The natural man’s affections are wretchedly misplaced; he is a spiritual monster. His heart is, where his feet should be, fixed on the earth; his heels are lifted up against heaven, which his heart should be set on (Acts 9:5). His face is towards hell, his back towards heaven, and therefore God calls him to turn. He loves what he should hate and hates what he should love; joys in what he ought to mourn for, and mourns for what he should rejoice I; glories in his shame and is ashamed of his glory, abhors what he should desire, and desires what he should abhor. Thomas Boston (Puritan Divine)
Man wants to be on the level with God, and in so doing become independent of Him… sin is the desire for the autonomy of man; therefore sin in the last resort is the denial of God and self-deification; it is getting rid of the Lord God, and the proclamation of self-sovereignty. Emil Brunner Dogmatics II pp.92,93
When you ungod God, you are unmanning man. Thomas Manton (Puritan Divine)
MACHO MAN
According to research, the five most difficult statements for modern man to make:
- I don’t know
- I was wrong
- I need help
- I’m afraid
- I’m sorry
A woman was in the car with her husband and he the driver took a wrong turn. She tried to be tactful. “Dear, I think perhaps you know a better way, a route they haven’t put on the maps as yet.”
He replied gruffly, “I know where I’m going.” 10 or 12 miles later he was not nearer the intended destination. He yelled in disgust, “These dumb maps. The men must have changed the road signs.” His wife suggested he stop at the gas station to seek assistance. “Why should I? I can figure this out.”
Measuring success
How do you measure success?
To laugh often and much;
To win the affection of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty; to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child,
A redeemed social condition or a job well done;
To know one other life has lived because you lived ___
Secret of success
A young intern asked his boss with a great record in running companies.
“What’s the secret of your success?”
“Good decisions.” he answered.
“How do learn to make good decisions?”
“You get that by experience.”
“How do you gain experience?”
“By making bad decisions.”
Know where to find the information and how to use it. That’s the secret to success. Einstein
Success
The Latin root for success means to go on well. Success is a journey, not a destination.
Many people relate to success as something to celebrate at the end of their days when they finally get there. Life is not about getting there; it is about being here. You cannot stop the waves but you can learn to surf. Success isn't about fighting or containing the wave. It isn't about being in control. It is being wise. Robert Holden
Success is letting go of fear. It is seeing through fear. Carl Whittaker
The key to success is to go from one failure to the next without any loss of enthusiasm. Winston Churchill.
Try not to become only a man of success but rather a man of value. Albert Einstein.
Eagles
When storm clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the storm wind to lift itself higher, to lift it above the clouds. This gives it the opportunity to glide and rest its wings. Isaiah 40:31. When we wait on the Lord, we can use the storm clouds of life to lift us to greater heights. Achievers relish challenge and use them profitably.
Eagles fly alone at high altitude, not with the sparrows.
Eagles have great vision. They are able to focus five kilometer away from their prey.
Eagles do not eat rotting meat.
Eagles love storms. They use their air currents to ascend and their wings to guide and soar.
Eagles test before they trust.
Eagles prepare for changes. Before eggs are laid, both the male and female identify a high place on the cliff or mountain far from predators. Males make nest with soft grass and thorns lining the final layer with their own feathers. Females lay eggs and protect them whilst their males hunt. To get the eaglets out of the cosy and secure nest, the female removes the soft layers and when the young experienced the prickly thorns they are more likely to jump. The male is there to catch them and encourage them to fly.
Christians Have Very Odd Values!
Talks to someone he cannot see
Expects to go to heaven on the virtue of another
Admits he is empty so that he can be full
Admits he is wrong, so that he can be right
Goes down in order to get up
Is strongest when he is weakest
Is richest when he is poorest
Dies so that he can live
Gives away so that he can keep
Sees the invisible, hears the inaudible
Japanese Values and Culture
Until fairly recently Japan has the second largest economy in the world. It has little natural resources and is plagued with earthquakes. For Japan, her people are the resources. Therefore distinctive values need to be ingrained in her people starting young.
1: Japanese children together with their teachers clean their schools every day for 15 minutes.
2: Children brush their teeth after a meal at school.
3: Students take 30 minutes to finish their meals to ensure good digestion.
4: At buffet restaurants in Japan, people will only eat as much as they need. There’s no wastage of food.
5: The use of mobile phones is prohibited in public transportation, restaurants.
6: In spite of being one of the richest nations, Japanese do not have servants.
7: The rate of delayed trains in Japan is seven seconds per year!
Vision, dreams and values
Lots of good dreams never come true because we say, “I’ll start someday” rather than “I start right now.” Now is the magic of success. Tomorrow, next week, later, sometime, someday often than not are synonyms for that failure word, never.
A dream in your heart without a plan in your head will never be a reality Pat Mesiti
Hold on to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow. Langston Hughes
When it comes to spotting faults in others, everybody seems to have 20-20 vision
We usually see things not as they are, but as we are.
Try not to become a man of success but rather, a man of value. Albert Einstein
We all live under the same sky, but we don’t all have the same horizon. Konrad Adenauer, former German Chancellor
Time, Life and Opportunities
Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% is how you respond to it.
It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that count.
Adlai Stevenson, US Presidential candidate.
Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.”
Albert Einstein
Time is an equal opportunity employer. Each human being has exactly the same number of hours and minutes every day. Rich people can’t buy moments. Scientists cannot invent new minutes. And you can’t save time to spend it on another day. Even so time is amazingly fair and forgiving. No matter how much time you’ve wasted I the past, you still have an entire tomorrow.
Denis Waitley, motivational writer.
A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman’s birthday but never remembers her age.
Robert Frost, poet
It’s not how old you are but how you are old. Marie Dressler
Young people look forward. Old people look backwards. The middle-aged look astonished.
The Road Ahead
The Road Ahead | ||
For last year’s words belong to last year’s language And next year’s words await her voice. And to make an end is to make a new beginning. T.S. Elliot (1888-1965) | An optimist stays till midnight to see the New Year in. A pessimist stays up to make sure the old year leaves. Bill Vaughan | Tomorrow belongs to the people who prepare for it. African Proverb |
By the street of by-and-by, one arrives at the house of never. Miguel de Cervantes (1524-1616) | I have walked that long road to freedom. I have tried not to falter; I have made missteps along the way. But I have discovered the secret that after climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are more hills to climb. I have taken a moment to rest, to steal a view of the glorious vista that surrounds me, to look back on the distance I have come. But I can rest only for a moment, for with freedom comes responsibility, and I dare not linger, for my long walk is not yet ended. Nelson Mandela (1918 -2013) | I have learnt that everyone wants to live on tops of mountains but all the happiness and growth occur while you're climbing. Andy Rooney, journalist |
Where am I going?
Albert Einstein had just been voted “man of the 20th century”.
He was travelling by train from Princeton and he could not find his ticket. The conductor said, “It’s all right. We know who you are. Sit back and relax.” Einstein nodded appreciatively.
The conductor moved on to the next carriage and as he looked back, he saw the great physicist on his knees looking underneath his seat for the missing ticket.
So he returned and said, “Look we know who you are and there’s no problem. You don't need to buy another ticket.”
“Young man, I know who I am but I don't know where I am going!”
The Future of Work
Jan. 3-9 2015 issue of The Economist.
It vividly outlines what the market place and labour market will look like in a matter of months. It focuses on the on-demand economy where entrepreneurs bring together computer power with freelance workers to supply goods and services. With a credit card and the specialist company app, you can have the services of medical consultants, legal experts at your door within two or three hours. You can order chauffeur or cleaners services and even get someone to stock up your fridge.
Freelancers can undercut big law firms and over-centralised corporations. It can help students and professionals to supplement their incomes; young mothers can combine bringing up children and part-time jobs; skilled semi-retirees can return to part-time paid tasks.
The well-researched articles on pp. 5 and 13-16 are too long to summarise! You need to read this if you want to be on the cutting edge of job-creation and visionary management.
Agents of Change
Every person is an agent of change.
Passive agents let things happen.
Negative agents stop things happening.
Affirmative agents enable things to happen. Lyle Schaller
Lord, for the years your love has kept and guided, urged and inspired us, cheered us on our way, sought us and saved us, pardoned and provided: Lord of the years, we bring our thanks today.
Lord for ourselves; in living power remake us - self on the cross and Christ upon the throne, past put behind us, for the future take us: Lord of our lives, to live for Christ alone. Timothy Dudley-Smith
Dreams and memories
We have our time machines. Some take us back, they’re called memories. Some take us forward; they are called dreams.
A dream is your creative vision for your life in the future. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become familiar with the unfamiliar. Denis Waitley
Losers live in the past. Winners learn from the past and enjoy working in the present towards the future. Denis Waitley, motivational speaker & author
Eternity
Eternity to the godly is a day that has no sunset. Eternity to the wicked is a night that has no sunrise. Thomas Watson, puritan pastor & writer (1620-1686)
Aim at heaven, you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you will get neither. C.S. Lewis (1898-1963)
References
↑1 | https://www.azquotes.com/quote/479856 |
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↑2 | see article Will an AI take YOUR job in 2019? China's leading expert warns it will take over HALF of jobs within 15 years (and reveals the most at risk careers) URL dailymail.co.uk |
↑3 | see article AI Will Replace Over Half Of These Jobs Within 15 Years URL lopscoop.com |
↑4 | exert from The Power of Moments pp 122/3 |
↑5 | refer https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Power-of-Moments/Chip-Heath/9781501147760 |
↑6 | Source: Leadership Pain: The Classroom for Growth |
↑7 | ISBN 0976889838, 9780976889830 |
↑8 | http://www.amazon.com/The-Secret-Code-Success-Happiness/dp/0061715743 |
↑9 | https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Canfield |
↑10 | https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Maya_Angelou |
↑11 | https://www.facebook.com/pages/End-Times-Disciples-Ministries/351175848381100 |
↑12 | Prophet Penuel Mnguni, the leader of the End Times Disciples Ministries in Pretoria, South Africa |
↑13 | http://www.christiantoday.com/article/pastor.who.fed.his.congregation.live.snakes.to.face.court/59546.htm AND http://nehandaradio.com/2015/07/14/prophet-orders-congregation-to-eat-live-snake-tells-them-it-will-taste-like-chocolate/ |